Question on presenting

[April_TO]

Thanks for the advice love

I was nervous about going full time at first but the more I put myself out there and tried presenting female more the easier it was. I think what the biggest help for me was using a weeks vacation to present female the whole time and see if I could. That was a huge confidence booster.

[Obfuskatie]

Be yourself.  You don't have to wear makeup or dresses or heels everyday.  I'd advise against reverting, if only because you shouldn't let yourself feel like you have to hide.  One of the first things I did when I started presenting full time was take all my boy clothes and donate them.  I kept my favorite boy outfit as a costume for visiting the conservative, geriatric extended family members I wasn't intending to inform about my transition.  Nevertheless I've found it extremely hard to wear that costume for half a day.  I can't imagine going back to androgyny-town willingly.


     Hugs,
- Katie
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[Sabrina]

Do whatever you feel comfortable with and slide into things as you are ready. For me, even though I am not remotely passable yet I have to get dolled up each day before I go out and go to work or out with friends. Holding things in was starting to cause mental damage. Beware of the consequences of holding it in too long.

[alexbb]

I dont hold with this do whats comfortable thing really. Do what right for you even if it isnt comfortable. Pushing beyond comfort zones can be rewarding when you come through unscathed. sticking to comfort zones is a sure way to get stuck in a rut.
youre 100% gorj btw!

[Sammy]

I have found androgynous mode to be very comfortable and flexible, to the extent that it is my constant mode (well, sometimes I need to wear power suit in my job, but it happens rarely and I find that experience to be mildly annoying yet amusing - mostly the looks of other people). As other said, the trick is to find what works for You and staying safe at the same time - nothing that I wear below neck looks like female clothing but the way male/andro clothing it sits on my body is another story... .

[androgynouspainter26]

Also, there's a big difference between wearing a wig and four inch heels and actually presenting as male.  There are always subtler fem options you can explore!  I wear t-shirts and jeanes a lot of the time, but I pad a bra.  It's just an example, of course.

[Mariah]

April it does get easier over time and as others have said I have only gotten more comfortable in presenting as a result of being on HRT. However only you can decide what works best for you. Good luck and hugs with which ever route you choose.
Mariah

[antonia]

Confidence plays a big part and at some point you have to just accept that no matter how well you pass there will be people who will question your gender. Be proud of who you are and remember that the best reaction to anyone questioning is usually a smile.

I think you live in the same city as I do, assuming this is correct I can say that from my experience it's one of the most open and accepting places in the world to be trans, I could not have asked for a better place to live and work in.

I've been full time since June and even though at first I was very nervous things have gone very well, from the start I decided to not wear a wig or any artificial padding, etc in my daily life since I think that would have made me feel uncomfortable. In my case I went full time before starting HRT because at the end of the day I figured I needed all the practice and experience I could get and honestly I did not want to wait for months or years.

Based on my experience I think voice, body posture, walk and movements play a much bigger part than anyone realizes and these are all things you can work on right now, HRT has little or no effect.

Also remember that girls don't wear skirts and heels every day, it's OK to be casual and comfortable