Has anyone ever given you hints that you were transgender?

[LizMarie]

My wife and I had intimacy issues throughout our marriage. She never confronted me about it, but when I came out she told me she always wondered if I was gay, but never this.

[Sydney_NYC]

My wife thought I was gay when we first started dating.  To the point where she brought her gay friend with to a party to "gaydar" me.  He cleared me. 

My wife thought the same thing. Then the first time we got intimate when we dated 20 years ago, as always I was more interested in giving pleasure than anything else. Afterwards, she then started to closely inspect my genitals. I ask her what she was doing. Her response: "I'm looking for your vagina, there has to be one in there somewhere!"

[ImagineKate]

Sure. When I was little I had cousins who would help me cross dress. They also pretended I was a girl and I liked it.

[ImagineKate]

My wife and I had intimacy issues throughout our marriage. She never confronted me about it, but when I came out she told me she always wondered if I was gay, but never this.

My wife and I have had intimacy issues but she never once suspected I was trans. It was quite a shock to me as I thought I was sending signals.

[Kylie]

My last girlfriend actually said that it felt like she was dating a woman when she was with me.  She has dated women, and this was 6 years after we broke up, so I found it pretty interesting.  It must have been something she thought about for it to stick with her.  We are friends, so it wasn't said in an insulting manner.  I took it as compliment.  I too, have had a suspicious amount of girlfriends who turned out to lesbian.  Maybe they saw something, who knows.

[CrazyNeko]

Yes. Everyone who knew me well were saying things like "you think and act like a guy", "you're like a man in a women's body", "you're better suited for a boy". A lot of men who knew me said that I lacked that "girl logic". For some reason I liked these comments. Also, when I was younger my mother was always trying to fix my male mannemarisms and teach me how to walk and sit like a lady, but I never managed to learn it, being a girl never felt natural to me.

[KageNiko]

My mom used to tell me when I was growing out my hair that she was hoping for a girl (but she didn't like that I was growing my hair out, lol) she also used to ask me if I was starving myself, or throwing up since I was so thin (which I was not, I had high metabolism).
I didn't mind people saying I was girly, but at the time I didn't think anything of it.
One day an old man Ma'am'd me once when I was working, which I thought was cute, but I think he was trying to be a jerk. Little did he know.
I haven't undergone any kind of treatment, but I find it funny when people call me Ma'am on the phone, and then I deepen my voice a bit to throw them through a loop (I never correct them though). That's always been a favorite characteristic of mine, a soft voice. :3

[Mai]

well, my first girlfriend after dating for a few weeks thaught i was way too feminine to be a guy and thaught i was actually gay, and she ended up wanting to change me around to be more "manly" which i stupidly allowed till we broke up.

2 of my oldest online friends from a mmo i was playing, were 100% convinced that i was a girl, they just never asked.  anyone that asked, i told i was male, but even after i told them i was a guy they made me get on voice chat and still didnt believe me (voice hadnt really gotten low at that point).  i had to get a webcam going before they believed it.  mmmm, well, silly me. they are the 2 people i ended up coming out to first and was filled with "we knew you were really a girl" related comments.

[Kellam]

I have this pair of pants that I bought from a thriftstore workwear department. When I found them I thought they were amazing and they fast became my favorite pair. I wore them to work and everyone started to comment on them. Especially the women, one of whom mentioned that she had a pair just like them. It took me a while, I even had to look up the manufacturer on line before I accepted that yup, these were for a lady EMT. They were the first peice of women's clothing that I put back on after reaching self acceptance.

I have had many people in my life ask if I liked girls. And of course my parents have been asking me subtle questions for decades. And my brother outright asked me what the clothing stash he found when I was a teen meant. My ex girlfriend of a decade tried to make sense of it when she caught me. But I think she just thought it was a kink as she tried to incorporate it into the bedroom. That just made things worse. For the most part I just denied and hid.

I think for the most part though, my faux male presentation was overtly macho enough to hide everything. My best friends were shocked when I came out to them. I don't know what to expect as I step further into the light of day...

[Kellam]

Oh, and often when people can't see my face, in print etc. I'm refered to as she/he or "this person"...

[Jayne]

I never needed hints that I'm trans, however I did have hints that I wasn't passing as male.
One day at work 20yrs ago a co worker stormed up to me and came out with "if you ever tell me you're going to be a woman then I'll drag you outside and kick your ******* head in, now stop mincing around!!"
This person was more than capable of carrying out the threat, so I made more of an effort to "man up"

[Sunderland]

Hmm... I dunno. No one ever asked me if I was gay or trans, or mistook me for a girl, that I can remember, but now that I think about it, girls/women have always been exceptionally sweet and friendly towards me. I've always had far more female friends than male. So maybe that says something.

[Jameson]

I've had a lifetime of appearing as some sort of "other" and generally being pegged as a bull dyke, butch, maybe a guy, sir, whatever. In my working life I've always been one of the guys in all male industries. Most of it I don't care or am fine with. The ones I get a kick out of are little kids who will walk right up to me and ask "Are you a boy or a girl?" I usually answer with some version of "Kinda both, what are you?" They are fine with it, and I enjoy watching the parent squirm and their relief when I get them off the hook.

I've had a new twist now. A couple of weeks ago I had to put my father in a nursing home due to a stroke and I'm finding that some of the elderly residents who have seemingly regressed and no longer filter themselves are coming up to me with the same question: "Are you a boy or a girl?" It's a bit different now coming out of the mouths of 90 year olds. 

But yeah, you could say I garner more than a fair share of curiosity.

[YoungZep]

I always appeared and acted fully straight and masculine, I am pansexual btw,  but sometimes I would drop the ball and my girly side would come out and I would have to kill the subject. But people I work with, and including my dad, think I'm gay, or have dropped hints that they think I am; Probably because I refuse to go to country dance halls, I HATE country music and I rather go out singing instead of dancing.

[big kim]

My Grandmother would often give me girls books.2 teachers told me I wasn't like other boys.The deputy headmaster said I was a yob,the headmaster said I was a nancy boy,they were both right.

[Vil]

Before I came out/know I was trans, i had a period when I wore men's clothing from Victorian period (completely with top hat). I had shorter girly haircut, but many kids in the park used to shout aloud "Mom, there is a weird guy!" just to be promptly corrected by their mother.

[aeonthrax]

Ive been transitioning for 10 and a half months now and its been winter during most of the bigger changes and i hide them well. Due to me working construction. But yeah my mom makes comments like "you need to eat more so you dont look like an hourglass or that i need guy liner to go with my new hair cut. I just feel like im on the verge of being outed before i actually come out as trans. Ive told a few people and i know its inevitable but yeah its all just gonna be more obvious further down the line so buckle up for the ride

[DanielleA]

Even before transitioning people have often assumed me as female. Back in year two at school I was playing with my twin and this year 9er from the high school beside us said " I know he (my twin) is a boy.... Are you a girl?" And at work experience in year 11 I was at an old folks home were the oldies were convinced I was a young lady the whole time I was there. Hehehe

[fallofadam]

When I was younger, I used to spend a lot of time with my older brother. I still remember the day when we were outside of my grandma's house, and he was teaching me how to throw a spiral when he randomly commented, "You're a boy trapped in a girl's body, you know." I still haven't forgotten that even though I was around age 8 when he said it, maybe younger. He doesn't know how right he was.

[Rainbow Dash]

I was bullied, picked on, beat up for most of my childhood because other kids thought I was effeminate and gay.
My Sister-In-Law told my wife when she first met me 15 years ago that I seemed pretty feminine.
When I Moved to the US, people would ask my wife if I was gay. My Mum told me I have been dressing as a girl since I was 11 yrs old and when I was 5, a guess I threw a huge tantrum because she wouldn't let me wear a dress. And a girl I knew in High School, once she found me on FB, said that my being a girl now made sense. Then there was the many other times I've been seen as female over the yrs before transition.
My favorite one though was when my mother-in-law pointed to me in a group photo of me with my college buddies and asking my wife, "So who is this girl?"
Given how short I am, my small hands and feet, no Adams apple and my androgynous voice in pretty sure my own body was trying to tell me I was a girl.

One time at a former employer, I told a friend I was transgender. I hadn't started transition yet and she replied with, "so you used to be a girl, right?" O.o
And I get called ma'am on the phone every time. I haven't changed my voice or anything.