My BF just referred to me as a guy

[Jayne]

I'm sorry to hear you've had to go through this, big hugs from me and my dog.

It doesn't sound like he's given you the same level of respect you've given him, friends should respect each other.
Staying friends with an ex rarely ends well as old feelings get stirred up too easily but the final choice is down to you

[Sunderland]

Just an update. I broke up with him yesterday, it's been really tough, up and down each hour, trying to stay positive.

So although we had agreed to be monogamous and had established that we we're a couple, apparently my feelings for him had developed too fast. He said he didn't care for me in the same way and pretty much implied that we were... ('deep breaths') just friends with benefits. I DON'T F*** FRIENDS, takes me long enough to trust a partner in that regard, so ended things with him there.

What hurts most is that I'd gone further with him sexually then I've with anyone else, I feel so exposed  and thinking of it in terms of doing it with a 'friend' doesn't make me feel good and bring back up my doubts about how he see's my gender, as if I'm one of his mates.

I'm trying to stay positive as I really don't want to get into a cycle of depression over this, I have too many past issues with rejection that I've gotten through, I can't let this trigger and fuel that cycle.

I loved having a BF even if he didn't give a ->-bleeped-<- about me, it was nice having someone to feel for and be humble for, it made everyday tasks so much more enjoyable.

He wants to stay friends and I did say OK but having thought about it I don't know if that's a good idea. He was always so defensive with me despite that I would clearly be trying for the productive and positive, I didn't mind just letting things go if it would make him feel good, even as we broke up I didn't challenge him that he had gone back on his word. So I'm worried about staying friends but I don't know if I can just say no and if I could how to put my concerns into words, because honestly I've not made sense of them but I can feel them strong enough.

Loves and 'hugs' you all xx

All my hugs, sweetheart. I feel for you. It means a lot to me too to let someone get that close. I can't imagine how much it hurt to hear that from him. I think you deserve so much better, and I hope you find it. I think he's a fool for not appreciating what he had.

[serenityfaith]

Stay strong girl. You're beautiful and ABSOLUTELY worth it. Don't let this guy use you! Let him go and re-center. I think somebody needs to hit the club!!! Or at least get out of the house for a few nights and live a little!    Much love!! <3
-Serenity Faith

[April_TO]

No friend will treat anyone like that. I say charge to experience, let go of him and move on. Life is short to be sad about someone who doesn't even deserve it.
It happened to me once and I have learned my lesson. Instead, I just focus on myself - make yourself beautiful.

Be strong, you are beautiful.

Love,

April

Just an update. I broke up with him yesterday, it's been really tough, up and down each hour, trying to stay positive.

So although we had agreed to be monogamous and had established that we we're a couple, apparently my feelings for him had developed too fast. He said he didn't care for me in the same way and pretty much implied that we were... ('deep breaths') just friends with benefits. I DON'T F*** FRIENDS, takes me long enough to trust a partner in that regard, so ended things with him there.

What hurts most is that I'd gone further with him sexually then I've with anyone else, I feel so exposed  and thinking of it in terms of doing it with a 'friend' doesn't make me feel good and bring back up my doubts about how he see's my gender, as if I'm one of his mates.

I'm trying to stay positive as I really don't want to get into a cycle of depression over this, I have too many past issues with rejection that I've gotten through, I can't let this trigger and fuel that cycle.

I loved having a BF even if he didn't give a ->-bleeped-<- about me, it was nice having someone to feel for and be humble for, it made everyday tasks so much more enjoyable.

He wants to stay friends and I did say OK but having thought about it I don't know if that's a good idea. He was always so defensive with me despite that I would clearly be trying for the productive and positive, I didn't mind just letting things go if it would make him feel good, even as we broke up I didn't challenge him that he had gone back on his word. So I'm worried about staying friends but I don't know if I can just say no and if I could how to put my concerns into words, because honestly I've not made sense of them but I can feel them strong enough.

Loves and 'hugs' you all xx