Quote from: DawnOday on April 11, 2019, 01:55:55 PM
JK No it is not funny and I thought I stated that.
https://desaction.org/des-sons/
Dawn:
Yes, you stated it was not funny. I was agreeing with you.
When reading your post, my mind was actually going to my memories and our similarities. My memories still carry emotion so I may have not worded my post as well as I could have.
You mentioned microphallus and undescended testicles. Same here. I had to have the surgery.
One of my most vivid memories was being pulled out of school one day (around age 12) and being taken to a teaching hospital in the St. Louis area for what I now understand was a pelvic exam. My most vivid recollection was that this doctor and nurse were not nearly as nice as my pediatrician (which was the only doctor I'd previously known....)
I get the funding issue. We're not dying of cancer so there isn't any urgency to scientifically look into our situation.
I do challenge that we 'chose' to be transgender. I hid it, fought it for over 50 years. I accepted it after I realized my coping mechanisms were killing me. I got to the point where I saw 3 options; 1) an intentional early exit, 2) keep doing what I was doing and exit from the consequences within a few years, 3) face it head on with courage and acceptance of myself to live the longest life I could.
I chose option 3 and started my transition.
My point: In the end I'm a Transgendered Catholic. (If they have a problem, it's their problem and they can just get over it!)
Finally, yes my old medical records are gone so scientifically we'll never know the truth. We only have our anecdotal experiences. So I kind of look at it philosophically.
Recently there were the news stories about the Chinese doctor genetically editing embryos. He claimed he was doing it to make the children more resistant to some disease. Unfortunately he's only succeeded in creating a new situation to be guessed at and monitored 30 to 50 years from now. There will only ever be anecdotal evidence to indicate whether this doctor did good or caused harm.
So where am I going with this?
Philosophically I choose to understand that my mom's OB/GYN was giving her the best advice he new to give. I philosophically choose to believe my mom made her decisions out of love for me. I was 11 years old when the medical community realized they screwed up. What was in the past was what it was. We could only go forward. That's what I'm trying to do.
Finally I used the description of 'DES daughter' because, based on my personal experience, I have to ask "Is there such a thing as a DES son?"
So maybe this simply gets back to the crux of my existence. I'm anotomically a son, but mentally and emotionally a daughter. In my heart of hearts, I've never felt like I son - even though I really tried to live up to the role.
Kate
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