I'm new here, and need help dealing with dyspohria

[Storn ~ Carmen]

Hello everyone!

I'm new here and can't wait to start looking through these forum pages and, more importantly, getting to interact with people who can really help, support, and understand me. From what I have seen this is a great place, kind, accepting and helpful. I'm happy to be here and I hope I'll be welcomed with open arms!

So a little bit about me: I am a 15 year old MtF transgirl. My whole life I knew there was something wrong but it wasn't until last year that something "clicked" and I realized what it was. Since then I have been In the process of coming out to friends and family as well as surrounding myself with information, knowledge, and as much acceptance as I can find. It has been an eye opening experience so far, filled with both ups and downs. I'm so happy I've finally discovered who I am, but getting the people I care about to discover that same person is my next challenge. Wish me luck!
By the way, if anyone is confused by my username, Storn refers to my online persona, and Carmen is my preferred chosen name.

Anyway, on to my first real topic here: How does everyone deal with gender dysphoria? In recent days my dysphoria has been growing out of control. I've dealt with it for a long time (since well before my discovery) and have always been able to deal with dysphoria in various ways (e.g. playing video games, writing, reading, playing a little sport, just generally trying to keep my mind off it) but these coping methods are becoming less and less effective and very few of them can be done during school hours, leaving most vulnerable during these times. Any suggestions on how to cope with this will be greatly appreacted.

Thanks to everyone who takes the time to help me out. I can't wait to see all of the replys that this may or may not even get. Thank you all

[Amy85]

Hi and welcome to the site! I'm sure many smart people will soon be here to impart some tips and tricks to help you cope with dysphoria. As for me I do what you do pretty much, distract myself with hobbies and such. And when I am working and alone with my thoughts I go a little crazy and sometimes slip into a depressed state. I don't recommend it Until then browse the site and read all the awesome topics and threads and focus of your awesome future and not the not-so-awesome aspects of the present. I'm sure you'll hear it often but you're lucky you realized you are trans and are working to correct it at your age. Most of your life is still ahead of you and you will get to spend it as a woman

[suzifrommd]

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As for gender dysphoria, I can only tell you what worked for me. Might or might not work for you. Here is what got me through:
* I accepted myself as a proud trans woman. It really helped to get past the shame and to see myself as a strong intelligent person who just so happened to be wired to need to be a woman.
* I made a plan. Having a timetable for transitioning really helped. I knew that it all was temporary.
* I found ways to bring joy to other people. That helped remove the focus from me and put the focus outside myself.
* I did a lot of posting here at Susan's.

Hugs, dear. Better times lie ahead.

[DeanJulian]

Hello Carmen!
I kind of get how you feel, I'm a sixteen year old FTM. Dysphoria sucks, and I have a lot of the same coping mechanisms as you, but yeah, they don't really work. What works for me, on some days, is watching youtube videos and looking at pictures of how far other people have come in their transitioning. It normally makes me feel better 

[Storn ~ Carmen]

Thanks for the warm welcome Everyone!

As for gender dysphoria, I can only tell you what worked for me. Might or might not work for you. Here is what got me through:
* I accepted myself as a proud trans woman. It really helped to get past the shame and to see myself as a strong intelligent person who just so happened to be wired to need to be a woman.
* I made a plan. Having a timetable for transitioning really helped. I knew that it all was temporary.
* I found ways to bring joy to other people. That helped remove the focus from me and put the focus outside myself.
* I did a lot of posting here at Susan's.

Thank you for the advice. Self acceptance is something I am definitely working on, but it can be a real struggle sometimes. I hope that as I continue this journey self acceptance will come to me, although I cant count on that happening.
My situation is currently quite unpredictable so creating a timetable may not work right now, however it will definitely be something to look forward to in the future.
Turning my attention on helping others is something I have wanted to do for a long time, and I have recently devised a plan with some of my more accepting friends on how we can make an active difference. More on that plan will likely come in other posts as things start to happen.

Thanks again. I already feel comfortable and safe here, even after such a short time. I thank you all for that!