hiding broad shoulders :(

Oneal · March 21, 2015, 04:41:30 PM

Good evening from the uk,

I need some help and advice on how to help me pass in my current physical shape... From the stomach down I think is very convincing but my chest back and shouldered are personally a dead give away

any help or suggestions ?
Many thanks

Devlyn · March 21, 2015, 04:45:22 PM

Here's a quick read: https://www.susans.org/reference/dresguid.html

Hugs, Devlyn

Tessa James · March 21, 2015, 04:47:57 PM

I am certainly no fashion doll but have heard that avoiding thin straps over the shoulder in favor of wider strap articles work better. It also seems that full shoulder covers and a quarter to full sleeve may help? I can only imagine that there are countless U tube videos on just how to do it. Good luck and happy dressing.

Oneal · March 21, 2015, 04:49:52 PM

Thank you

I'm not sure how to post pictures on here but as an indication
I have a 30" hip, 28" waist, 41" chest/back and 50" round my shoulders :/

Laura_7 · March 21, 2015, 04:50:45 PM

You might try with colours... dark colours might give a smaller look...
you might try with accessoires... a big belt, a piece of cloth maybe in a light colour around the neck, hanging down your chest...

Tessa James · March 21, 2015, 04:52:36 PM

Part of the fun then is shopping and trying things on with a fashion smart friend. I love the thrift stores and now have bags of discards to return but at 4 bucks an article it is easy to get carried away

Oneal · March 21, 2015, 04:56:16 PM

It's difficult as I feel it is compleyly stopping me from dressing how I would like. So going shopping... I can't really get away with trying clothes on presenting myself as well a male

bit of a struggle

Tessa James · March 21, 2015, 05:05:53 PM

I can understand that and years ago needed someone to literally hold my hand when shopping. It soon became clear to me that what i felt was a big deal is usually nothing at all to the other shoppers intent on getting a sale or finding a fit. The shop clerks are there to help us and make a sale. No one is likely to challenge us and if we are with another confidant woman/person it just seems like business as usual. One alternative is the on line stores but then the fit is less certain and we miss out on opportunities to just own the truth. We want to look good in new clothes!

Devlyn · March 21, 2015, 05:10:50 PM

Quote from: Oneal on March 21, 2015, 04:49:52 PM
Thank you

I'm not sure how to post pictures on here but as an indication
I have a 30" hip, 28" waist, 41" chest/back and 50" round my shoulders :/

You need to use an image hosting site like imageshack or photobucket, they're free and easy to use.

femmebutt · March 22, 2015, 11:48:45 AM

I have a similar build - perhaps not as extreme in either shoulder or waist. I'm also a total female fashion noob but i've found I like close to the body fitting (slinky, not necessarily "tight") wide or v neck with simple shoulders or cuffs if short sleeved (not poofy!). I also have a longer torso so cropped tops don't work. Off the shoulder designs and even cutting out the collar of a t shirt work awesomely!

I might add that going shopping is one of the best first character building activities for your inner fem. Whatever your goals are regarding transition (sounds like looking your femmest is important to you) I would recommend you summon the courage and subject yourself to the awkwardness and scrutiny. Most of it will be in your head anyway! Your wardrobe selection will reward you for the effort. I now go both dressed or not. If I'm going into the women's dressing room (perhaps the store doesn't have a men's side...) I'll be dressed and looking good tho not quite passable yet. I haven't yet had a hard time bringing female clothes into the men's dressing room if i'm not dressed.

Oneal · March 22, 2015, 07:26:21 PM

Thank you, I'm lucky enough to have a gf that is very understanding and is more than happy to share a wardrobe with me. Although I may not have my own clothes I do get full access to a complete wardrobe on a daily basis which is nice.
I have noticed like you say that wide strap/v neck items mask the shoulders quite well. I have a few outfits which I love to wear round the house. Things that I feel bring out the femininity in my shape. Maybe As mentioned I need to just take a deep breath and venture out dressed as I feel I should be able to.

Oneal · March 25, 2015, 02:10:39 PM

Sorry dont want to seem like I'm 'bumping' this but I'm keen on some more feedback. This is probably the most restricted part of my fem look. If any more pics are needed, ones where I'm dressed fem with my shoulders visible let me know.

Thank you.

Oneal · March 25, 2015, 03:03:53 PM

Sorry about the quality

News:

hiding broad shoulders :(