i still wear jeans and a tshirt for convenience, but so far ive really been enjoying small steps; lasering my beard off, learning make up, getting my ears done, going to job interviews and other professional engagements or industry conventions in girl mode... try it? ive found not being horribly unhappy all the time improves every aspect of life; people seem nicer, food tastes better, the world is full of beauty. and you know, more people than youd think are very supportive and cool. give it a go its addictive!!!
oh, re explanation, i found this helpful
ive no idea or interest in what 'causes' tg-ness, presumably some combo of environmental chemical pollution, genetics, whatever. mundane, arbitrary, unhelpful. the dealer and the pack of cards your hand is dealt from are just agents of chance. what was important to me in making my decisions was the future; the prognosis.
this article showed i was in fact quite normal as mtf tgs go, and explained this in clear terms. it then went on to map out likely futures; a pretty happy life during and after transition, at least with regards personal gender identity and relationships and so on, or a continuation of the abject despair i felt in the closet ending in eventual suicide or stress related illness. seeing the two futures laid out so clearly, the decision was a no brainer, and this logic was convincing enough that my family and friends were onside immediately once it was explained. it sounds like your mum just wants the best for you; with some education she could be your greatest ally and help you enter girlworld smoothly using her lifetime of experience to guide you.
worth thinking about anyway.
i scraped some of the particulaarly germaine parts and put them in a single blog post but i recommend reading the whole thing.
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