I have a job with a marketing firm. It's great. The only time my gender came up was when HR notified me that my social security had the wrong gender. I told them that SS tracks sex, not gender, and then explained that I was trans, and that while I put female gender, because that's my gender identification--any records that are dealing with sex organs are going to say male.
And that was that. Other than that, I haven't had any questions at all about my gender and I get along really well with everyone at work, who are all super nice. The pay and benefits are good.
I live in Rhode Island. Blue states are where it's at.