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Let's assume for the sake of argument that dysphoria could be cured..

Started by darkblade, February 23, 2015, 02:07:56 PM

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Call me Ray

Good question. If there was a cure for my disphoria and I could be cis I would with one requirement, I would be cis male. I tried to be a happy cis lesbian and even when my dysphoria was at it's least and my denial at its best I still knew that "lesbian" didn't fit.
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cindy16

I have thought about this question too sometimes, but instead of considering it in an abstract manner, I would first ask - how exactly is 'curing' dysphoria possible without transitioning?

If it is true that our gender identity is decided in the brain, and if it is the brain where dysphoria occurs because of a mismatch with our bodies, then the only way it can be cured without a physical transition is by doing something to our brains. It is not possible currently but may become possible some day, so it may not remain a hypothetical question. But this is where I have to agree with those who say that if their dysphoria were to be 'cured' without transitioning, they would no longer be themselves. Somehow I think doing anything to our brains to 'cure' or 'change' one thing will have an effect on how the brain works in other ways too, which in turn will affect who we are as people.

So what would I choose - changing my brain which decides who I am, what I feel, how I think, how I decide, what I want, what I care for, and who/what I love?
Or changing my body which only does what the brain tells it to do, and which we anyway keep changing cosmetically all the time?

I would keep my brain as it is, be who I am, and change my body. In other words, I would still want to be female.

P.S. Looking at it another way, I think HRT does change people's brains, in the right way. I would want that kind of change, but I think that's not what the original question was referring to.
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Jayne

Now that I'm in a better mood than yesterday I'd say there is a perfectly good cure already, hrt and transition

The only other alternative for a cure is to have someone mess with my head, no thank :-)
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Rudy King

But to be honest, if they could cure me, I'd rather have CAIS than PAIS.  At least then, I wouldn't have had to have the problems I've had.

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dalebert

What if a surgeon told you he had the perfect surgical solution to your problem and that you would be cisgendered and like it? Now what if you found out his solution was a brain transplant?

"We found the perfect donor. She's very happy in her female body so once we transplant her brain into your body, you'll be whole and complete and happy!"

But it wouldn't be you, right? YOU would actually be dead. That's how I feel about any sort of solution that involves fixing your brain. Anything you have to do to your body to make you happy is minor by comparison to that. I feel like I could accept some fairly radical changes to my body and still feel like me if my mind and personality is intact. Changing you in that way is a kind of partial death of the you that was. If you love yourself, you won't want to do that.

Tripdistrans

I wouldn't. I feel like it wouldn't be right, there would probably be some catch that the cure that leaves us emotionally numb, or completely incapable of placing our gender. It's not my mind that is wrong, it is my body, and so the 'cure' for that for me is HRT and surgeries.
Expectations in life are only useless without passion. Be passionate about yourself, and love yourself.
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DarkWolf_7

If there was some magic way where I could be happy being cisgendered? I would take that in a heart beat and I wouldn't care if that meant being a slightly different person. And I even tried shoving my dysphoric thoughts away.

But I know there is no magic cure and I don't believe there ever will be.

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