Coming out taking good with the bad.

[Dodie]

Well I have come out basically to the general public now.
I had a neighbor and freind from our last home and he is the biggest redneck u could ever meet.
I told his wife on FB and started a new page
Then her mother friended me and she did too.
Then my old buddy calls and says what the blank is going on
I was like oh crap, then he said he was upset he just found out and told me how much they luv us and wish they had been there for support.
That's the good.
The bad was an associate who found out and have known since 1987.
We were friends so I thought and he did not call me he emailed and said I always knew u had no balls!

So whatever! Please read and remember the quote below I found. It lifted me up hope it lifts someone else up

Dodie

"There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living."
― José N. Harris

[CB]

You can never tell can you? People you think will have a problem don't and people who you expect to be on board have an issue with you.
Accept the good ones as a bonus and the others..well screw them.

In my case I've had people who I  never really expected to be on board turn out to be just wonderful, not just OK but like genuinely interested in the whole transition process. Then the one very very close friend who my partner (wife) met through years ago in MN , someone who is like family and oh so liberal etc, completely reject us both claiming "to not understand why I would want to do something like this" And he is gay and been through tough time so should have experienced hate first hand. go figure!

Thats a nice quote Dodie!

[cindianna_jones]

It really is surprising how well people accept it now these days. First may I congratulate you for your courage to come out in such a public way. I'm using current pics of myself here but I am using my nome de plume I used for my book. I do have a Facebook page and it has some equal rights stuff on it for everyone, but i focus on music, writing, and astronomy for the most part. Next, my condolences to those who have betrayed you. You just never know who your TRUE friends are until they are faced with a difficult situation. Some people will only love you as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop.

Of course, you have lots of ready made friends here. I have personally met a few and we have all gotten along famously. Please keep us posted. Okay? You'll get through this. In fact, losing some of the worthless baggage is sometimes liberating.

Chin up and all of that,
Cindi

[jeni]

Are you sure this wasn't just an ill-advised attempt at humor?

(I have some very close old friends who I expect are likely to make some jokes like that. In my case, given the nature of our friendships, it's ok with me. I would certainly not be ok with it from someone I was any less than brotherly with.)

[Rachel]

Hi Dodie,

I bookmarked the thread; I really like  the quote.

Good luck going public.

When I came out to my brother-in-law and brother I thought they would be disown me. They were very welcoming. You never know.

[Emileeeee]

Are you sure this wasn't just an ill-advised attempt at humor?

That's what I was thinking too.