Is being on HRT but choosing not to live as your desired gender an option?

[Stanna]

Amy,  I have very similar thoughts and doubts that you are expressing. I just had my first session with my gender therapist yesterday, and part of me was hoping she would tell me your not transgendered get the hell out of here and man up. Well, that did not happen, I think she saw in me the girl that I know is so desperately trying to come out after being suppressed for so many years. So I am hoping after 16 more weeks of counseling I will be not be on the "gender fence" as you put it. I hope you find your inner peace, and live a happy life.

Hugs, Stanna

[JoanneB]

In my opinion, the ultimate goal should be to get to a place where you can present as the gender you identify with and feel comfortable.

IMHO, the point of any and all that we do is get to a point where we feel comfortable, period. What it takes and how it can be accomplished is different for each and every one of us.

I've been on HRT for 5 years now. I am mostly at a place now where I am mostly content being me. I have, for the first time ever, a body I am mostly happy to be in. I put a tremendous effort into my emotional health. I now feel I mostly accomplished the goal I set forth nearly 6 years ago to make one whole, healthy, and happy person out of the disparate yet important, aspects of myself, with one kept mostly locked away from even me. I mostly still present male.

In an ideal world I would go full-time in an instant. I know I am finally up to the challenges, if I had to. Luckily I am not a member of the Transition or Die club. Came close to joining a few times but never signed. My wife, my career, my obligations, all tend to keep me from making the jump. They are all as important to me as gender, perhaps more so. But, I know where my true joy lies. It is as Joanne, living, breathing, and being her, 24/7

[AnonyMs]

IMHO, the point of any and all that we do is get to a point where we feel comfortable, period. What it takes and how it can be accomplished is different for each and every one of us.

So very true

[Amy85]

First ever session of therapy! https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,183834.msg1632616.html#msg1632616

[Nikki_Taz]

I said this many times before, I dont feel the need to announce im becoming a she.  People will figure it out.  We are all different, personally in more androgynous on the fenale side,  and theres nothing wrong with that.  It all depends on your comfort zone.  I wear gorls clothing but noone can tell and they dont say anything becuase im cool in their eyes.  Just find your own style and try not to worry too much about what others think about your gender, try and focus on what makes you happy.

[AnonyMs]

Amy, there seems to be something wrong with you link. I found it here.

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,183834

Congratulations! Big step forward.

[AbbyKat]

I said this many times before, I dont feel the need to announce im becoming a she.  People will figure it out.  We are all different, personally in more androgynous on the fenale side,  and theres nothing wrong with that.  It all depends on your comfort zone.  I wear gorls clothing but noone can tell and they dont say anything becuase im cool in their eyes.  Just find your own style and try not to worry too much about what others think about your gender, try and focus on what makes you happy.

That's what I plan to do for a while.  I don't think I'll let pronouns get to me because I'll expect to be gendered in all sorts of fashions during my transition.  I'm hoping it will be obvious when to start properly gendering me.  Being called a "she" at this point almost seems patronizing to me (unless it's from my wife; I love that) so I don't really feel like pushing anybody out of their comfort zones just because I'm not in mine.