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General Transition Advise for New Transitioners

Started by Dodie, February 27, 2015, 12:03:06 PM

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Kellam

Hmm...so perhaps I'll calm down a bit once the initial rush of self acceptance subsides and especially once the testosterone starts to leave my system? I'd be okay with that too. At times it is better to be a tortoise instead of rushing ahead like the hare. Oh well, I can only work with who I am at this moment in time...
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Dodie

Kellam,
Everyone is so different in the journey.. I thought I could transition in two to three years never dreamed I would be full time in 13 months..
Go at a pace you feel comfortable at and try to enjoy the ride. 
For me being almost 56, setting this pace surprised me and my family but for me once I started E.. and continued therapy and accepted my true self I wanted out.. I wanted to be seen female.
Now that I am seen female.. I feel totally female now.. I walk differently talk differently act differently I am just a woman.  Its weird especially since not long ago I was that big body builder looking dude..

To address your statement:"Hmm...so perhaps I'll calm down a bit once the initial rush of self acceptance subsides and especially once the testosterone starts to leave my system?".
I would say that you most likely are finding joy in your self acceptance and are excited about HRT... I sure was and once I started HRT nothing  could ever stop me from taking it.
Early in my transition someone on Susan's gave me advise when I once said well I just want E to settle me down and then maybe I will just stay a dude and feel better.
She said that she had seen girls try that and ended up transitioning.. she even said my bet is your going to transition.. I wish I could remember who said that.. she was seeing my future.
So, you may find once the T leaves.. your female side will begin to take over.. and trust me us females are pretty strong headed at times.
Dodie
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Kellam

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Thanks Dodie! I guess I'm just trying not to get my expectations up too high. Your words will stick with me for a long time. I will remember them and you. Hugs!

10 pm re re edit: I need to learn to shut my trap and listen. Sorry about earlier...
https://atranswomanstale.wordpress.com This is my blog A Trans Woman's Tale -Chris Jen Kellam-Scott

"You must always be yourself, no matter what the price. It is the highest form of morality."   -Candy Darling



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Jessica Merriman

The very best advice I can give for new transitioners is that it DOES NOT happen overnight. It will take years of time, effort and possibly money to reach your goals. Patience IS A MUST! :)
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Zumbagirl

I agree with hair removal. It took me 3 years before I could finally stop going to electrolysis. I haven't been back for any additional treatments in probably 12 or 13 years so I know it works. One thing I did when I was doing my voice training was to invest in a small hand held recorder. It worked great and I could hear the results right away. I had my eureka (I found my voice) moment with that tape recorder.

My own $.02. Have a plan. No one spends tens of thousands of dollars for surgery, hair removal, therapy, doctors, endo, hair, clothes, legal documents. I mean the list is endless and nothing is cheap and the money can go fast. In the end, hormones were probably 1% of the cost of my transition and I pay for them 100% with no insurance (I still do).

Have "realistic" expectations and be true to yourself. It's not about being beautiful it's about being happy. If one turns out beautiful it's a bonus :) I didn't want to be beautiful, just blend into a crowd and disappear. Anything above and beyond that is a gift. I have people, mainly women, tell me how pretty I am. But you know how it is with us, I wouldn't believe them.
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