My "chaotic neutral approach"

[FennecFox]

I came out of the closet several years ago but it went incredibly bad for me so I went back in. I decided that I would begin my transition (HRT) this year. I had thought about how to tell people about it but decided that I would let them put the pieces together on their own. The few close friends and family that I have come out to aren't unsupportive but don't really listen so I often get the wrong pronouns and treated as "one of the ladies". My sister-in-law is pretty bad about treating me like a fellow housewife, which is almost comical really. Personally it's not hurtful that they do this, just frustrating.

I'm not "out" of the closet. I don't tell my peers, teachers or anyone when they're using the wrong pronouns, but I'm not "in" the closet either. I make hinting comments, wear my binder, and have my facebook state me as a Trans*male with male pronouns. Some people catch on, most do not. Now that I'm on hormones I've decided to post consistent selfies (without explanation). I've decided to let hormones and time do the coming out for me.


Sister: "Your voice is deeper."
Me: "Yes"
Sister: "Are you sick?"
Me: "Nope. Just got a deeper voice." *cheeky grin*

[StrykerXIII]

If they don't ask, don't tell them. 

[JoanneB]

Totally agree.

This old dinosaur does not get this need to proclaim to the world every thought or thing going on your life. I also am a Cold War era kid. Actually, barely second generation European immigrant working poor kid growing up in that very same small city atmosphere. You don't tell nobody nuttin.

As you have already seen, you post things and people, even your own sister, either don't care or aren't paying attention. I've been told much the same happens during transitioning. It is absolutely amazing what people either don't notice, don't care, or are afraid to ask.