What is the most ridiculous thing someone has said/asked you regarding trans?

[Jen72]

I have to admit I haven't heard to much YET but one thing you said Jill "Why would you flush your male privilege down the toilet?" I have heard. Actually not in so many words but my sister said something like that in an honest question so not stupid but more along the lines of:

Why would you want to wear a bra, have to wear less comfy shoes and be more careful with the clothes I wear.

Ok another one is wearing make up then she said well actually I don't wear much either.

I can understand how it can be ridiculous but then what I read from her was a bit different I guess its a matter of perceptions and where it came from. Not trying to derail anyone either a lot of those things are just over the top. Or maybe I just don't get it YET most likely find out when some e flows in me:)

I little fyi on my sister not trans but she was always a tomboy so maybe somethen with that??? For me actually that does make me think what it will mean to lose the male privilege but then again I would gain so much more:)

[StrykerXIII]

The most ridiculous thing...let's see...

"So you're an effing freak, then?"
"You've just got 'special snowflake syndrome', grow up already."

And the all time favourite...even got this from my SO's family at first...

"Are you sure you're not actually just gay?"

[Sunderland]

Oh, gosh, some of these... Was she actually being serious when she asked if you were going to have surgery to grow a beard? Is beard surgery a thing? If it is, I've never heard of it.

I dunno how I'd react if someone asked me why I'd want to give up "my male privilege." Is that referring to not wearing makeup and caring less about clothes? 'Cause I actually like makeup and dressing up. It's fun, and it feels good to take pride in how I present myself. I wouldn't consider that any kind of burden. I guess it depends on your personal style whether you see that as a privilege. But it's not like you have to. Plenty of girls don't wear makeup and dress casual where I live. Maybe it's a city thing.

[Ayden]

From my mother: "so... Whose pecker are you getting?" She meant it honestly and that made it so ridiculous I just laughed myself sick.

From my grandmother: "Wait, does this mean that you like women?"

From my brothers as a unit through the elected awkward question congressman: "Are you a boy or a girl??" (I'm the oldest by a large margin)

From strangers I've been asked how I masturbate (Perfectly fine, thanks), how's my sex life (very active and better than theirs), if I have "both sets" now, (wouldn't you like to know?) and my all time favorite, so your husband is a "->-bleeped-<-"? (I hate that word).

If I think of any more I'll let you know. Edit to add, I just remembered another one. "So, do you know Laverne Cox?" Because apparently we all know each other.

[pollypagan]

My GP..........one more time, my GP (yes, doctor) said to me,  "You realize that oestrogen will give you a higher voice?"

(He has since retired).

[Cindy]

Polly's response reminds me of my pharmacist when I gave him my first HRT script.

I have to warn you that taking this will make you sterile and develop breasts.

I replied I really hope so.

He is a friend now, lovely man.

[Jayne]

One that i've just remembered from the first time a stranger noticed I had breasts

Idiot: "Bloody hell you've got tits!!"
Me: "Oh my God, I didn't have them when I left the house, there must have been a mix up at the supermarket"

[Eva Marie]

Upon informing my boss that I am a transsexual and I was coming to work as Eva on <date>:

"You wear MAKEUP?!?!"

Followed immediately by:

"Are you going to get the surgery?" with an uncomfortable look on his face 

He's actually a good guy and is a great person to work for albeit clueless about trans stuff 

[ainsley]

My mom's reaction to coming out to her (her very first words): "So, you like to dress in women's clothes?"
The real facepalm happened when she told me that so long as I was not attracted to men and staying married to my wife, it was ok with her.  wth??!!!
And the classic one from the lady, whom I'd never met before, giving me my first mammogram --as I stand there topless:  "So, when is your surgery?"

[Jayne]

My mom's reaction to coming out to her (her very first words): "So, you like to dress in women's clothes?"

My mums first reaction "you're old enough to do whatever you want, ooh doesnt the dog look cute"

[Dee Marshall]

"I believe other people are trans and I support them, but not you. I think you've just talked yourself into it."

[Beth Andrea]

This happened today....

A lady customer asked for my name...

"It's Beth", I say with a friendly smile. 

"YOU'RE a BETH?!" she replies, a look of incredulity on her face.  Then she shakes her head and says as she walks away, mumbling sarcastically "you're a Beth..." 

Oh well, can't please everyone! LOL I knew I should've named myself Lenore....

[Jayne]

Beth, you've just triggered another memory, this has happened several times (or variations on the theme)

Q. What's you name?
A. Jayne
Q. I mean your real name?
A. Jayne
Q. I know what you call yourself now but what's your real name?
A. My real name is Jayne i've changed it legaly
Q. But what did your parents call you when you were born
A. It doesn't matter, I don't answer to that name
Q. But what does it say on your birth certificate
A. I've changed my name by deed poll so my birth certificate is irrelevant
Q. Yeh but. . . .  what . . . . . is. . . . . your. . . . . real. . . . name?

One person did end up asking the question very slowly as if I was thick & didn't understand basic english, I normaly end up giving up & walking away long before they realise my name is Jayne

[Jill F]

I don't know if this counts but, "What is it like to be a ->-bleeped-<-? I'll bet fun."

*le facepalm*

Yes, it's a real barrel of monkeys, isn't it?  Electrolysis, surgeries, ridicule, marginalization, subjugation...  It's like the circus, Disneyland and Vegas all rolled into one. 

That's one person who definitely needs beaten repeatedly with a cluebat.

[Damara]

I've had people ask me if I was going to get facial surgery done and then tell me what they think I need done.. without my asking. It was quite distressing.

[LordKAT]

It is someone I work with who loves his porn sites. I hear more than I care to, obviously.

[Beth Andrea]

*le facepalm*

Yes, it's a real barrel of monkeys, isn't it?  Electrolysis, surgeries, ridicule, marginalization, subjugation...  It's like the circus, Disneyland and Vegas all rolled into one. 

That's one person who definitely needs beaten repeatedly with a cluebat.

I've had two older women say something along those lines..."the best of both worlds"...

I suppose they never heard of a little thing called "dysphoria"...

And then there's the men who are OK with transitioning, but when I mention I got married they're "oh? What's his name?"

"Not a guy...I'm married to a woman."

"Wait, you transitioned, right? If you like women, why didn't you just stay a man?"

Only once did a guy figure out "oh...so you're....a...lesbian?" *watching his brain gears slowly clunking along*

"Yes, that's right."

It seems like they can wrap their head around either being gay, or being trans...but not both at the same time.

[AbbyKat]

It seems like they can wrap their head around either being gay, or being trans...but not both at the same time.

When I was dropping the T-bomb on my wife, I let her guess first by saying something like "Is there something about me that you've always suspected?" and she said "Are you gay?".  I was personally confused as to how I should answer it.  I wanted to say "You better hope I am". 

Then it was me who said the dumb things.  I was asking her "So... if I have a penis now but probably won't later and I stay with you... does that mean I'm straight now but won't be later?"  Truth is that, since I'm really just a woman with a terrible hormone imbalance and a penis-shaped growth hiding my vagina, I've come to the conclusion that I must have always been a lesbian.  It was even better getting to tell my wife that she's also a lesbian!   

I think nearly all of us who suppressed and buried dysphoria for most of their lives avoided topics on transgender folks.  I know I did because it was like Pandora's box and I knew I wouldn't be able to shut it.  But that results in many of us coming to terms with it while still having the same dumb questions that others have when we tell them.  I think that reason alone will be why I will forgive just about any innocent question, no matter how dumb it sounds.

[Jigsaw.]

wow some great ones here.. I havent really had anything to me personally. I feel left out 

Closest was my mum telling a family friend about me and saying that a family member's son is gay like it was in any way comparable to this. Thats all I can think of though. People seem to have a hang up about equating being trans to being gay. I dont get why they cant tell the difference like its even remotely the same thing

Oh just remembred, the reaction at uni to my sudden name change was 'did you get married?' No one seemed to take into account my first name had also changed and to a male name, no all they thought about was surname and equating it to marriage. Cant count how many of them asked me the exact same question. I chose not to respond other than to say no. I didnt want to tell anyone as it was the last month before leaving anyway what was the point in trying to get anyone to understand what it meant

[pollypagan]

Polly's response reminds me of my pharmacist when I gave him my first HRT script.

I have to warn you that taking this will make you sterile and develop breasts.

I replied I really hope so.

He is a friend now, lovely man.

My GP also "warned" me that I would grow breasts. (Still waiting by the way. Grrrrrr). It's the fact that he told me my voice would get higher.  I wish! I didn't correct him, just thought, "Dear God what else does he not know?"