Terrible dysphoria; Should I talk to my dad about HRT? What do I do?

[F1end]

Hi there, I'm Victor. I'm new to these forums, I just really needed some help and looked for transgender resources, and here I am.

Lately I've been extremely unhappy, unmotivated, and dysphoric. It's gotten worse over the last couple of months, where my dysphoria is bringing me down almost every moment I'm in a social setting. All I've been able to think about his how feminine I look, especially how I sound. This isn't exactly new, but like I said, most recently it's gotten extremely worse.

I turned seventeen this last January, and though I always thought I could wait until I was a legal adult to look into HRT, it's all I can think about now. My mom is completely on board. She's noticed that I've been depressed and insists she wants to help. My dad, on the other hand, who is the primary provider for the family, has disapproved since I came out five(?) years ago.

I don't know what to do. I'm considering talking to him, but I'm scared of how he might react. I'm honestly just so unhappy, the thought of waiting is becoming almost hopeless.

Sorry, thanks.

[supremecatoverlord]

Hi there, I'm Victor. I'm new to these forums, I just really needed some help and looked for transgender resources, and here I am.

Lately I've been extremely unhappy, unmotivated, and dysphoric. It's gotten worse over the last couple of months, where my dysphoria is bringing me down almost every moment I'm in a social setting. All I've been able to think about his how feminine I look, especially how I sound. This isn't exactly new, but like I said, most recently it's gotten extremely worse.

I turned seventeen this last January, and though I always thought I could wait until I was a legal adult to look into HRT, it's all I can think about now. My mom is completely on board. She's noticed that I've been depressed and insists she wants to help. My dad, on the other hand, who is the primary provider for the family, has disapproved since I came out five(?) years ago.

I don't know what to do. I'm considering talking to him, but I'm scared of how he might react. I'm honestly just so unhappy, the thought of waiting is becoming almost hopeless.

Sorry, thanks.

I would try talking to him about how you feel about your body without bringing trans*culture into it and how you feel like this decision would make you happier & justify not being able to see yourself as yourself currently. When the idea of change is brought onto the table in a generalized sense, I often find that people tend to be more intolerant because they draw from other's experiences. Most parents do want their children to be happy, but they also want to know they are making the right choice. If you are too uncomfortable to talk to your dad personally as well, perhaps you can ask your mother to talk to him or at least back you up & speak to him as a team, because I know it can be a big deal to have someone there for you when you're a little bit at a loss for yourself.