Dating Safely?

[Maxwell]

So like the title I'm wondering ,
1. How can you tell that they think of you as who you want to be and aren't just mean?

2. How can you make sure they take you seriously like if you're ftm but act/dress 'girly' or feminine?

3.General safety?

*highschool , but nothing serious, yaknow?*

[suzifrommd]

Maxwell, in my experience, the answer to all your questions is "time". The longer you're with someone, the clearer picture you'll have of their true character. See them in various social situations, with friends, in public, in a group, on a chat, etc. You'll begin to be sure.

If after weeks/months you find they're still a closed book, I'd say that's a major warning sign.

[StrykerXIII]

Maxwell, in my experience, the answer to all your questions is "time". The longer you're with someone, the clearer picture you'll have of their true character. See them in various social situations, with friends, in public, in a group, on a chat, etc. You'll begin to be sure.

If after weeks/months you find they're still a closed book, I'd say that's a major warning sign.

This, a thousand times over. There's no way to know right off the bat what someone's like...never is, unfortunately. It'd make life a hell of a lot easier. You just have to get to know them.

[sam1234]

Maxwell, in my experience, the answer to all your questions is "time". The longer you're with someone, the clearer picture you'll have of their true character. See them in various social situations, with friends, in public, in a group, on a chat, etc. You'll begin to be sure.

Our society is full of people who are either intimidated by transgenders, or who hate them. Everyone is so worried about someone else thinking they are gay if the physical body isn't consistent with the gender you present your self in. Although gender dysphoria is not a sexual orientation problem, people tend to lump it in with other sexual difference. For that reason, I would think that if they would have taken off when they found out.

You don't have to tell them as soon as you start dating. Letting them get to know you as the gender you identify first. Sometimes when you tell them, they do accept it. Other times, they feel embarrassed by the fact that they didn't know and have to explain it to others.

sam1234

[Sydney Spitfire]

The answer is communication,time and consent.  Strong and good relationships are built on communication as Your partner should be aware of your feelings and be there to support you. For safety just remember that you are not forced into anything and if you are uncomfortable about something just speak up about it as consent/respect is very important and if that doesn't happen there's no shame in terminating the relationship

[lionheart]

If someone really loves you, none of that stuff should matter to them. I would make sure that the person you're interested in is completely comfortable with your situation before making any sort of move. I don't know how out you are either, but in my experience, it usually helps to come out before you start dating. Otherwise it might be a pretty hard hitter, and could affect the relationship.

[sam1234]

I was looking back at the posts on this one. If you are F to M, the dressing less "girly' will help. Was F to M a mistake? Did you mean M to F?

The other thing is that out of the experience that i've had, which isn't a lot, I'd rather have someone say they had to think about it than just accept it right off the bat. That shows that they have given the matter some thought. Things like whether or not they can go the distance and stay with you, accept what others think, and see you for who you are.

I'm sure there are some people who will take to the idea right off and be fine with it, but just make sure that you don't start getting questions from the other person that sound like they are having second thoughts. I don't think someone would act like they accept it just to be mean. They might just think they don't have a problem with it, and then over a period of weeks or months start to question their decision. If its right, the relationship will grow stronger. Follow your gut instincts.

sam1234