hrt as a 13 year old

[Jazmin]

first of im only 13 years old and dont nativly speak english but i hope that you can understand me.
The first time i thought about how it is to be a girl was when i was about 8 years old and since then  i really want to be seen as a girl. I have only told a friend until now but i want to come out to my parents as soon as possible so that i feminize as much as possible. Does someone have any tips for coming out? Im a really shy person in general as well ._. also i think that my puberty has begun and ive heard that the results of hrt would be way better when starting before puberty. Is there really such a big difference? And if i would start with hormone blockers now and wait until i am 16 years old to go on hrt would the results be as good as if i would start with hrt now? I would like to wait until i finished school before i go on hrt.

[Jaz650]

I came out to my parents when I was 11 years old, and began spironolactone and estrogen at 14. Biggest blessing in my life! I am now 23 years old, and to everyone I am a normal girl. Come out to your parents as soon as possible! Starting hormones now is the best thing you will ever do! I went to Mexico recently to visit family. My grandmother hadn't seen me since I was 13 years old, and she asked my mom who this young lady was. Lol Nobody recognized me, and everyone believed I was a female friend of the family. I came out to some people, but not all.

[LordKAT]

Hi Jazmin, welcome to Susan's.

When you can start HRT is dependent on a few things. Mainly parental permission and the laws where you reside. Usually you start blockers until older, 16 or so. Knowing where you are at would help you get more useful information. I mean country wise, not detailed whereabouts.

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[GorJess]

You can absolutely get estrogen at this age, if you go to the right doctor. For instance, Jo Olson in Los Angeles, Maddie Deutch in San Francisco, and my doctor, among others will give you the ever essential puberty with your peers. Blockers alone these days, at least stateside, is outdated medicine at best. Wish I could say the same of England and the Tavistock clinic.

If you are French, as you allude English isn't your first language, it is a terribly difficult place to be for transsexual youth. The doctors and higher ups believe anything can change before 18, and the methods to getting hormones before then are quite complicated. While I'm not a French resident, this is the treament I dealt with in (a very liberal part!) the States, just a few years back when I was a teen-and because of so much doctor ignorance, I started at the an age too late for my liking; 20. It sucked hard.

[Athena]

Hi Jazmin welcome to Susan's.

[mmmmm]

You need to come out to parents as soon as you can. Don't overthink it how, just tell them what you feel... You will not be able to do much without their help and support. You need to do what you can with the help of internet, to find out as much information as you can about the trans-related healthcare in country/area where you live. In many countries it's still impossible to get anything (even puberty blockers) before you are 18, but there are always other ways that are possible, IF you have support and help of your parents.

[Rudy King]

I totally understand!  I'm super shy as well, and the thought of telling anyone was so scary.  I would have done anything but that.

What I did, was write a letter, explaining what, and why I was doing it.  Surprising, no one seemed surprised.

Take the first step, even though it seems super scary, and then the second step will feel easier, and so on.

Good luck!

[jessical]

I don't have much to add, but Dr. Deutsch rules!  There is also pediatric specialist that does transgender care under the UCSF system with Dr. Deutsch that I hear very good things about as well.  If you are in the UCSF area, please let me know.  I can help.