I'm going to talk with my wife Sunday

[katrinaw]

Hey Melanie that's great news, went very well... Hugs to you for joy and getting over that hurdle...

L Katy 

[Laura_7]

Hugs and well done

[Melanie CT]

Thank you chefskenzie Katy Laura.

[Dodie]

U are blessed and I am sure a weight is lifted off your shoulders
Wishing u a wonderful future
Dodie

[Stanna]

  Melanie, it is good to hear that your talk with your wife went well. I too am fortunate to have a wife that is supportive and understands what I'm going through. I have told her many times that I don't know how I could go through this without her. To those here that do not receive support from their S.O., I must say that you are incredible people and I admire your determination and courage.
  Best of luck on your journey, Melanie!

  Hugs,  Stanna

[Melanie CT]

Stamina thank you. I am very fortunate. I have to take it slow and not overwhelm her with everything. I am very happy and yesterday I was walking on air most of the day. We will make through this I hope and there still is a lot to get threw but telling her was one of the scariest things I have ever done. Thank you for your support.
Melanie

[Jill F]

I am very fortunate. I have to take it slow and not overwhelm her with everything. ...

telling her was one of the scariest things I have ever done.

^This^  It's hard to take it in all at once.  You had your entire life to mull it over, so giving her as much time to process as she needs is awesome.

And yes, finally coming out to my wife was apparently more terrifying than death for me.   So glad you got it over with.

Hugs,
Jill

[ashley_thomas]

These conversations will continue and sometimes it'll seem like it's all coming crashing down - believe me. Remember this conversation you had with her and the advice to go slow.  It's abstract today but when you're full speed ahead on E you'll get your moment of practical reality when she looks up and feels the change viscerally.

Keeping a relationship in tact is an amazing reward but the road to get there is a winding one and has many rest stops along the way.  Sometimes the rest is mandated after the wheels come off and the car hits a tree.  I speak from experience.

My wife has been absolutely beautiful about my transition but even still we are around 50% there and have decided to slow for a bit re social transition (50% done) to let her catch up emotionally.

Your partner may be completely supportive but that doesn't mean she won't get emotional vertigo from time to time.

Breathe, support her, hear her, love her the way she needs to be loved - the exact specific ways - become an expert in her needs.  To me this is the essence of transition into womanhood - being there for another person knowing what they need and giving it with ease, pleasure and without any difficulty on your end. Make it look easy and expect nothing in return and you'll get a transition and then some.

in the end you both might find the love of a good woman is exactly what you need despite whatever loss may accompany that new found love.


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[CrysC]

Great that you built the courage to talk with your wife Melanie.  It's hard to do and scary but omg doesn't it feel like you just dropped a ton from your shoulders?  I hope and pray that things stay going well. 
Good luck!

[Michelle G]

Good luck Melanie!

After the initial expected shock of it all my lovely spouse said, well...I guess we need to go shopping! Off to the mall we went and she also gave me a bunch of her cute things that she hadn't worn for awhile or didn't fit her anymore. Three years later and we still love shopping together and we both make a point of asking each other if they want to add on to an online order we are making 

[Melanie CT]

Stana, I am very sorry for spelling your name wrong. I responded from my phone.

Things are still going okay. I know there will still be a lot to get through in the future but we will work on that. I am still feeling better. talking with my wife has taken such a load off my shoulders and I feel better about life and living.

I am very fortunate things went the way they did. From reading blogs here there are some of us who don't receive the same response.

I plan to attend a transgender health conference April 25th in Connecticut. I went once probably over 6 years ago and the depression stopped me from going following years. This year will be so much different. I can go in with my head up. I can't wait.

Thank you everyone for your support and I will be there to help support others.
Melanie

[Stanna]

No problem Melanie :-) Glad to hear things are still going okay.

Hugs,   Stanna

[mac1]

I talked with her today after dinner. It took me that long. I thought I better do it now or I won't again. I told her how my depression is getting worse and we talked about what would make me feel better. I told her about my transitioning feelings and told her about how I was thinking about taking a low dose of estrogen and I would not want to do anything about transitioning if it comes to that until my daughters are out of college due to my job.

She agreed and said I should look into estrogen with the endo my doctor will recommend. Things went vey well. She is amazing and I love her so much. Also told me we will talk with my daughters after this semester of college finishes which I agree. I don't want to add any more stress to there school.

She said I am my own worse enemy and shouldn't beat up myself like I do and I should have talked to her sooner. Things will go slow from here which is OK with me.

I am very fortunate to have her. Sorry it took so long to let you know what happened. Thank you for your support!! It really helped so much.
Hugs
Melanie

Good for you. That is great. I wish that my wife was accepting about it.