do you speak female voice to your parent and old friends?

[jeminajay]

After being fulltime or in female looks, do you use female voice or keeping original voice when talk to parent, cousins or old friends.

I am going fulltime soon and wondering what should I do.

[Lady Smith]

Long term it's a lot easier to learn to speak with a female voice and stay speaking that way.  You're far less likely to make a mistake because you were feeling tired or in a rush when you are out in public.

[Mariah]

I use the female voice when talking to anyone anymore. I slip up from time to time at home, but only at home and I have been making consious effort to not mess up at home either.
Mariah

[Sydney_NYC]

I began practicing my female voice 5 months before going time, even before HRT. At first when I went full time I got by when out, but when at home or talking to family or friends even though I didn't use my old male voice it would drop. As time went on using 24/7 it got better and better. After a while I just started use my best female voice all the time until it just became automatic around 4 months of being full time. Now even when I wake up in the mornings I don't even think about it and it's my female voice. Since then I've only tried to speak in my old male voice twice, once because my voice therapist, who I only used in group sessions to optimize my voice, wanted to hear it at 8 months full time, and showing another trans woman last week who was just beginning how far I came. It was really difficult to let it drop down there and it wasn't as clear as my female voice which now I consider, "my voice".

[Jill F]

Dude voice went the way of dude.  It's gone forever. 

[LoriLorenz]

Sort of a parallel.

I speak in "hearing voice" with my family and other folks I have to speak with regularly. If I'm tired, my vocals slip back towards Deaf accent a bit, but usually I'm pretty good. With my Deaf peoplez I am totally Deafy, accent and ways of using voice etc go totally Deaf.

It's easier in every day life to stick with what's "trained", but the allowance to relax and just BE is a relief at times!

[Muffinheart]

I don't use a female voice per se.
I tried voice training with a great speech therapist off and on for two years. I noticed, as each passing month, I became more comfy in my skin and ability to pass, I worried less and less about my voice.
I don't have a low voice, so that helps, and when needed like answering the phone, I can switch to a higher voice.
Now, six years later, I dont care about my voice with my friends or even people I meet for the first time.
People see me, that's their first impression, voice is secondary to me.

[suzifrommd]

After being fulltime or in female looks, do you use female voice or keeping original voice when talk to parent, cousins or old friends.

I am going fulltime soon and wondering what should I do.

I'm a woman now. I use my female voice everywhere with everyone.

[Ms Grace]

I don't use my male voice with anyone.

[Jenna Marie]

I agreed to keep my old voice with my wife ONLY (and that was a compromise I was happy to make considering all the other changes she'd had to deal with and that my voice didn't and doesn't really cause me much dysphoria). Everyone else got the female voice as soon as I had one down.

In reality, although I switched back and forth for some time, over the years my ability to do the male voice slowly eroded even at home. My wife accepted that would likely happen; she wanted a slower and more gradual loss compared to the 11-month full-speed-ahead transition that robbed her of everything else "male" about me. These days, if I'm *very* tired or stressed at home I still slip for a word or two, but I cannot even consciously do the male voice anymore - it sounds as silly and fake as any other woman straining her voice to pretend to be male when I try.

[Mai]

ive notices i can keep my voice fairly feminine when im on the phone, or talking to strangers, or women. but anytime im around male coworkers, or around family its just ridiculously hard and my voice keeps slipping back into a deeper masculine sounding voice.  if i could, id use it everywhere.

[pollypagan]

I just can't do a female voice. I've had therapy, bought a package from Kate Perez.......Nope. When I practice alone in the car I usually end up sounding like Nelson Mandela. To the question however. With family and old male friends I endeavour to give it a moderate lift; but with new friends and old female friends I give it my best shot; which is pretty naff. (and to many of you who have already posted, I am NOT totally raging with uncontrollable jealousy in the slightest!!)

[MugwortPsychonaut]

I practice my female voice when I'm alone. I've tried using it in the past, but it still feels inauthentic. I do have a better idea of what I'm doing now, so there's that. Someday.