My mom sent me a friend request on fb

[Brandon]

My fb page says Brandon Davis and gender male so I am confused as to why she would send me a friend request knowing from what I know she's not ok with me being her son.

[Contravene]

She probably still cares about you and wants to know what's going on in your life. Just because a parent doesn't accept your gender identity or transitioning it doesn't mean they don't love you.

[Alexthecat]

My parent doesn't use right name or pronouns in real life but on facebook will say "my child". Worse thing is you add them then end up deleting them later on.

[Brandon]

She probably still cares about you and wants to know what's going on in your life. Just because a parent doesn't accept your gender identity or transitioning it doesn't mean they don't love you.

Well lol she's my mother I know she still cares about me and loves me, I just thought it was odd.

[Brandon]

My parent doesn't use right name or pronouns in real life but on facebook will say "my child". Worse thing is you add them then end up deleting them later on.

That's why I am debating, its her buisness website that she has for my family's agency.

[Cynobyte]

Does she have a personal one?  Not a good place to debate issues with people you don't know.  I'd say go for it, if it was a personal one. 
But then I don't use Facebook anymore as it seems to cause more friend issues since I hate responding or using it rather than simple email or txt..  but no matter how you feel about her, from personal experience,  she is your mom and it's unconditional love;) 

[Brandon]

Does she have a personal one?  Not a good place to debate issues with people you don't know.  I'd say go for it, if it was a personal one. 
But then I don't use Facebook anymore as it seems to cause more friend issues since I hate responding or using it rather than simple email or txt..  but no matter how you feel about her, from personal experience,  she is your mom and it's unconditional love;)

No she only uses her buisness one. Like I said I just thought it was strange.

[Jayvin]

I've noticed a lot of people will get this from their families, even if they are not alright with the transition. Perhaps it'll help them get used to it though?

[Cynobyte]

I guess go for it.  Maybe it's her way of trying to say she accepts you in public?  Some people these days think Facebook = public for some reason. 
I wish you the best of luck and hope it turns out great, but like it was mentioned there is always the defriending option.  I'd use it before saying something you will regret that will be posted for eternity..
Trust me on that one.  My mom and I got into it and she kept trying to drag things up on Facebook, the last thing I wrote her was "goto hell!" Before defriending her.. She died a little over a year later.  I kept her page open for other family members who still write in there?  But my last entry was that:(  its kinda in the back at least..  it had nothing todo with transition..  I wish I could have dumped this on her though, she would have understood this more than anything else in my life for some reason..
Take care..

[Brandon]

I've noticed a lot of people will get this from their families, even if they are not alright with the transition. Perhaps it'll help them get used to it though?

That's true because alot of my cousins are my friends on fb.

[aleon515]

Oh boy the problems modern kids have. LOL! 
Not sure how to handle this, sounds tricky. If you are stealth might be an issue, if you are out then maybe not so tricky.

--Jay

[LoriLorenz]

Run for the hills! Parents on FB AAAAAAHHHHHH 

LOL sorry, just had to. Both my parentals are not on FB and call themselves tech dinosaurs even though they are only 60. I have lots of family and friends on FB. I am still stealth there, though there are certain people who know I'm trans*. Because my family is majorly Catholic, and BIG family, I have to be careful where and when I share, no matter what.

If your mom wants to be on FB with you, go talk to her and set down some ground rules. Mom, I know you don't like me being Trans, but please, on FB can you at least use gender neutral terms? I'm ok if you can't say "son" or use male pronouns, but can you say "my child" instead of "daughter"? and stay away from gendered pronouns? I'm happy that you want to know what's going on with me, just please respect.

Good luck

[Lady Smith]

I have a Faceplant page mostly so my son who is living in another city can keep in touch with me.  It's isn't under my real name, but an old fantasy gaming handle I used to use so that gender issues aren't out there in public.  Both my now adult kids are fine about me anyway with my son always calling me Anne and my daughter calling me Mum.

My view is that any attempts at non-abusive communication are good and are a seed that has the potential to take root and grow.