So not long ago, I connected with a guy through an online dating site. We messaged back and forth, and he suggested I call him to talk more.
I did, and we talked for a bit, and then he said he had to deal with something, but would call me back soon. He also mentioned maybe going out on the weekend (with friends).
Yay! I'm going on my first date!
I get all excited, and had some fun little daydreams about what might happen next, and then predictably he didn't call. Not that day, or the next, or the next.
The first day I was disappointed, the next I was bummed, and then I was just annoyed. Thought about calling him, but that just felt needy. I wasn't exactly stood up, but it felt like it.
So the weekend came and went, and I moved on mentally. Then I get a call from him while I'm in a meeting, and it goes to voicemail.
Of course I get all hopeful again, and when I get the message later, he's inviting me to a party, but - get this -
he calls me by the wrong name. It started with the same letter, but that was the
only similarity.
This just makes me feel depressed, so I mope around for awhile, and then I leave a return message politely declining. I'm wondering, is this how it's going to be?
Later on, when I'm driving somewhere, I realize this is actually a funny experience, in a dark sort of way. I mean, really, that message was worse than not calling back at all. If you wanted to blow it with a potential date, can you think of a dumber thing to do?
He actually did me a favor - the date might have been far worse.
In the end, I had a good laugh about it, and promised myself not to get all silly like that again. Really. I won't.
