what is it that attracts you to a man or woman or both

[evecrook]

I for some reason since birth love the touch of a man against my body , but I feel the same towards woman. I've probably have had equal partners through out my life as far as male and female. Sexually I'm pretty equally attracted to the male and female body ,even though as I get older the need to be with a man only as a complete woman gets so much stronger, but I can be just as happy with a female companion both mentally and physically. I can love a man's mind as the same as a woman's . I guess in a sense I might be pretty screwed up to the point of causing me to be a lone a lot . How do others view what attracts them to the type of partner they prefer. I'm just kind of totally blind when it comes to the reason I prefer one over the other except that I do understand for myself that it's far more difficult to find a man who's mind is compatible then it is for a woman's.

[Zoetrope]

I am bisexual, so ...

Men: Practicality, protection, and testosterone-fueled moments of fiery passion.

Women: Empathy, flowing communication, and emotional connection.
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I guess which way I swing really depends on my broader life situation and psychological needs at any given time.

[evecrook]

I am bisexual, so ...

Men: Practicality, protection, and testosterone-fueled moments of fiery passion.

Women: Empathy, flowing communication, and emotional connection.
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I guess which way I swing really depends on my broader life situation and psychological needs at any given time.

Yea, I'm really into taller men, that feeling of protection is nice and warm

[StrykerXIII]

I can't really put my finger on exactly one thing or set of things. None of the various women I've been with have had anything in common, really. But if I use my fiancee as a source, it's in her spirit. Yes, she's pretty - long, flowing hair, bright green eyes, fair complexion, nice...erm..."build"...ahem. But it's mostly in WHO she is. She's compassionate, loyal, selfless, and not afraid to get her hands dirty to protect what she loves. It really was by pure chance that I ended up with a woman at all. We met on the internet - she could've been anyone. I fell head-over-heels for her long before I ever knew what she even looked like. Being a pretty woman just made her easier to introduce to my parents 

[melanie maritz]

hmm that's a good question I'm attracted to men so I guess what attracts me is: definitely 100% , if he is taller than me then I will be attracted to him even more, I like both muscle guys and skinny "nerdy" guys , one is all manly and the other one seems more sweet. I like to be able to have a nice conversation, sometimes about deep stuff so intelligence is also very attractive to me

[Cindy]

I'm straight and I like men as partners who are taller than I, very intelligent, good sense of humour and honest with both themselves and I. I like to share my life and my man must be able to share his with me as well.

[Jill F]

You just have to have "it".  You know "it" when you see "it". 

[Cindy]

You just have to have "it".  You know "it" when you see "it".

Ye I like a good sized 'it' as well

[Hikari]

I identify as a lesbian, and this is kinda neat, since I haven't really thought about what I like so much, I generally have been on a I know it when I see it mentality.

Physically I am not very particular on her body, I find body types from curvy to rail thin attractive and I like breats regardless of size so long as it fits her body, I do find myself partial to longer legs and a taller person in general. Physically her face is the most important attribute for me, and I am very much partial to long hair. A nice smile and bright eyes go a long way for me

Mentally, I want someone who is confident, who is willing to call me out when she thinks I am doing something wrong and also willing to say what is on her mind even if it might hurt my feelings in the moment. She had to keep me interested with subjects to talk about, it doesn't have to be a particular thing she likes to talk about so long as it is something I am also interested in. She also has to have a sense of humor, if she takes herself too seriously it is a major turnoff.

[Wild Flower]

I'm 100% straight trans woman, lol, and why I like men... well because women don't play the protector role as much, and make me feel feminine. It's to make me feel feminine and loved, and I love a man, and I like making a man feel masculine. Our differences make us equal, like the moon and the sun, always chasing one another but never together in unity. And when we meet, the world stares at our total eclipse.

[Muffinheart]

For my partner, and in general, most men I've dated it isn't their looks necessarily, but how they treat me.
My fiancé, while not too keen on talking about my past or what it was like all those years, does support me.
Im pretty sure the reason we're still together is I did have surgery last year.
He makes me laugh, we share some interests, he's kind and thoughtful.
Always sends me texts throughout the day just letting me know he's thinking of me.

Most importantly, he puts up with me. Man, I can be a bitch at times, but he takes it all in stride and it slides right off him.

He has never hid me from family,mfriends or his co workers. And he is in one of the most Alpha type jobs - police.

I'm lucky to have him in my life.

[mfox]

It's to make me feel feminine and loved, and I love a man, and I like making a man feel masculine.

For my partner, and in general, most men I've dated it isn't their looks necessarily, but how they treat me.

Yes and yes!  I dated either gender until it dawned on me why men were so much better.  They make me feel most feminine, and I feel complete when I can make them feel masculine.  It was always obvious how much more masculine I was compared to my cis girlfriends.

Of course women are more physically handsome in some ways, but it took me a while to realize that desire was mainly  envy, not sexual attraction.  My husband probably wouldn't turn heads, but I fell in love with his personality and nature first and his body second.

I love the feel of a man's chest hair and beard, to feel the power in their arms, to see their male firey desire and make them happy.  Since HRT, they definitely have some kind of scent or pheromones too.

Of course I miss the empathy and emotional connection that comes naturally with other women, so most of my friends are women.

[Sabrina]

I'm attracted to either men or women. My main criteria is that they can accept me for who I am. I've yet to date anyone since starting my transition though. I can't stand someone who smokes. Having similar interests and a well taken care of body helps.

[ana1111]

well firstly I definitely agree with what a few others have said about being with a man makes me feel more feminine and I want to make him feel more masculine... and physically I really like tall guys though my current bf isn't that much taller than me and its not that important in the scope of things...I really love muscles but mostly bulky muscles not overly defined or lean and especially arms and nothing is better than holding your guys arm wrapping both hands around it and your both hands don't touch or barely touch.. I like guys that are kinda hairy not on the back or shoulders but chest and stomach, arms, legs...and if he's hairy and muscular than  ... and there voices really can be very nice too ...oh and the way guys smell  ya I always liked that even before hormones or anything and mens colognes are great too... emotionally and personality wise I really like a guy who makes me feel really special, desirable and pretty, treats me as a princess and I love it if he's protective and even slightly possessive at times.. he's gotta have a really soft caring side too cause as much as I love the hard manly exterior I want someone who I can talk to and can be there when im sad and hold me and likes to cuddle and talks about how he feels for me and such...lastly he's gotta be ok with the trans thing period...not just with me waiting it out till I get surgery or ashamed of himself cause he likes me.. he's gotta like me equal or more than a cis woman and be comfortable enough to have me meet family and some friends...

[Zoetrope]

You rock, Anna :~D

[ana1111]

thankyou! I honestly wasn't sure anyone would read that long of a post

[Zoetrope]

lol well ... I normally *don't* read long posts. But yours had some juicy content so ...

I like how you know what you want, too. That's rad.

[ana1111]

yep, if you know what you want its a lot easier to get what you want and I feel like I pretty much got what I want right now in the relationship department

[Zoetrope]

yep, if you know what you want its a lot easier to get what you want and I feel like I pretty much got what I want right now in the relationship department

High five!

[Ashey]

I'm pansexual, but to keep things simple.. With Men, sometimes it's hard to tell. Sometimes looking at a guy just 'does it' for me. Or their smell... so I know some of it is hormonal. Otherwise, maybe just because they're so different from me, and therefore are a bit interesting. Beards, I've learned, are nice too. Height, muscles, etc. Nice things too. I guess there's no real mysterious reasons for liking them at all. It's all pretty typical stuff. And well, a big reason is penises. Or I hope it's a big reason... However, men also frustrate the crap outta me a lot of the time for various reasons. Plus they scare me sometimes. My boyfriend sometimes gets this rage built up and when it comes out, it's very frightening. So that's the downside to masculinity, and their size and muscles and all that. Nice when they're on your side, protecting you, but not when they could potentially turn against you...

As for women, I'm simply much more attracted to them physically, and have a broader range of 'types' that I like. Women are beautiful. But beyond appearance, it's nice to relate with women mentally and emotionally. Women are also generally cleaner and nicer and gentler, which I like. So I lean more towards liking women. And someone brought up the point that men make them feel more feminine. Well, I could relate to that at first, but now.. There are times I actually want to butch it up a bit. Not necessarily because I want to be a 'top', and not necessarily to attract more femme women (because I like butch and anything in between too), but I guess maybe I've gotten past that need or desire to be with men as a counterpoint to feel more secure. I'm secure enough in my femininity that I don't need the contrast to feel more like a woman. Hopefully I'm not offending anyone with any of this, just my own personal feelings and observations here. Anyway, my attraction to women has also changed as I've transitioned. Took me a while to figure it all out and I still haven't completely. But my former attraction to women was based on being 'a guy' and now it's very different. So I'm still getting used to liking women as a woman, but I really feel that I would be happier in a relationship with a woman.