Trans dating issues

[ana1111]

its actually kinda similar with me and my boyfriend except reversed and he's cis... he's always so comfortable going out with me and always trying to get me to meet people and I always try to get out of it cause im not comfortable with myself and im always worried they will know or it will be awkward...

[Squircle]

its actually kinda similar with me and my boyfriend except reversed and he's cis... he's always so comfortable going out with me and always trying to get me to meet people and I always try to get out of it cause im not comfortable with myself and im always worried they will know or it will be awkward...

He's comfortable going out with you because you're gorgeous. I know exactly the feeling you are describing though. "Do they know I'm trans? They must know I'm trans. Everybody is looking at me and my trans-ness. I want to go home!"

[antonia]

One of the biggest thing that helped me get comfortable was having a large group of trans friends and we go out very regularly as a group, there are girls in all stages of their transition but all very presentable.

It allows you to see how people react to trans people when they know the group is trans and it allowed me to laugh and have a great time even when I knew I was being clocked, it also showed me that even when people know I'm trans they can still be attracted to me and they don't see me as some freak.

We pretty much go anywhere we want, being in a group of 6-10 girls removes any worries about personal security and having friends by your side helps in my experience.

Perhaps the two of you could explore some local trans groups and see if that makes here more comfortable?

[Danielle Emmalee]

Thanks for the advice again.  I'm gonna try to go out a little more with her I think.  Just in smaller doses maybe, so we can get out if we need to.  The trip to the zoo was just hard because we got a ride there and it was a day trip not just an hour or two.