My wife speaks of transitioning

[codyfletcher]

Hello everyone,

So, as the title implies, in a turn of events, my wife has been talking a lot about transitioning into a male, which I'm totally cool with. What are some of the things I could do to really show i support her and make her comfortable with everything. What should I expect if/when she should go through HRT?

It's interesting for her because she still likes girly sort of things like painting nails/makeup etc, but she would rather be more masculine. It's funny that she says this since I lean more towards men regardless (she was the first and only woman I've ever been with). Personally I'm pretty in between, I could careless what's between my legs, I like a lot of girly things, but at the same time, I'm pretty dominant at times like a male. Guess I'm gender queer? (Off topic lets get back on).

Like I said I would really like some tips on what I can do for her and also, what to expect. Thanks to anyone that replies!

[fallofadam]

Hello everyone,

So, as the title implies, in a turn of events, my wife has been talking a lot about transitioning into a male, which I'm totally cool with. What are some of the things I could do to really show i support her and make her comfortable with everything. What should I expect if/when she should go through HRT?

It's interesting for her because she still likes girly sort of things like painting nails/makeup etc, but she would rather be more masculine. It's funny that she says this since I lean more towards men regardless (she was the first and only woman I've ever been with). Personally I'm pretty in between, I could careless what's between my legs, I like a lot of girly things, but at the same time, I'm pretty dominant at times like a male. Guess I'm gender queer? (Off topic lets get back on).

Like I said I would really like some tips on what I can do for her and also, what to expect. Thanks to anyone that replies!

First of all, you seem like a genuinely supportive husband so [emoji106] good job. Support is the number one thing that any transgender person needs.

I find it interesting that you are attracted to mainly males and then were attracted to an ftm (or who I am assuming to be an ftm) person. It makes sense because he is male inside.

If you are questioning your gender, or where you fit on the gender spectrum, maybe you two can go on this journey together, finding yourselves. Sounds fun.

What should you expect with "T"?

-deeper voice
-more hair
-"male energy"
-some say, an increased sex drive
-bigger hands and feet
-redistributed weight and muscle mass
-more angular features

Those are things that came to mind right away.

What can you do?

Just listen to your partners needs in terms of transition. Ask what pronouns to use, maybe a name change is in order, and maybe not. Just be supportive in the best way that you can - which I have no doubt that you will be.

Good luck!

[suzifrommd]

To add to what fallofadam said, I'd also suggest reading up on what it is to transition female to male, and what it is to be trans. For example, you'll find that a lot of people keep characteristics of their birth sex after transitioning. We have lots of MtF women who enjoy target shooting and drive major trucks and FtM guys who like to be feminine. Trans people don't look to be like their identified gender, they need to be one.

Your spouse sounds like to have someone who is so supportive. Good luck.