I want to give an update, many of you have asked questions here and privately to me and I owe you in my mind some update (I opened this can of worms).
So.... My wife(former husband) and I are still together.
Its not been easy but counseling has helped. I realize that no matte what I want to be with this person. I love him. We are sharing the same bed, we watch shows together, we laugh,we cry, we talk and quite frankly we are closer than ever. who would have thought.
She is calmer, more collected, and our lives in many ways are better. We still see a therapist and thats been of great help for me and her.
It is not all perfect. There is no Man in the house anymore. We share the responsibilty to protect ourselves, our children and ourselves. For the most part she is mostly stealth in public, but is on hormones, her skin is more feminine.
We have had sex with the lights out, but we always have the lights out, so it works. She smells different.
She has emotional moments more, we hug more.
our kids know something is up and they don't seem to care.
a few people know and we thought it was going to be this giant deal, most don't really care. THAT was a surprise but pleasant
Bottom line, unless she cheats on me, or loses interest in me being the center of her universe, we will be a couple for ever I think. Its working out.
I hope this helps. My advice to anyone reading this and dealing with the same issues. Ask yourself, do you love this person? do they love you? Are they kind? Do you like who they are? do they make you laugh? are they a good person? if you can say yes to those, then work it out, go to therapy, find a way, there is a way, and don't let fear rule your decisions. Life is to darn short.
And I want to thank this community, ->-bleeped-<- communities, books, Susan Boylans(Spelling) books, and everyone for helping here and being brave enough to blaze a trail for others to be "normal".
thank you
