Getting past having to wear a wig

[JulieWeeks]

For those of you that wear wigs on a daily basis, how did you come to accept it?

I have been on E for two months now and have an endo appointment at the end of the month to start AA.  My MPB is significant and I am very thin on top.   I have accepted that my hair is not coming back without thousands upon thousands dollars for surgeries which I will likely not be able to afford any time soon.  So the solution for transitioning is wigs, but I am really struggling with the notion of being "a dude in a wig" for the rest of my life and always seeing him when not wearing it.

It has gotten so bad in the past few weeks that I'm seriously considering not transitioning and stopping HRT before any irreversible physical changes start.  My therapist says to not worry about this because plenty of women deal with hair loss and wear wigs - I do agree with her, and it helps, but I am not there yet.  I want to get past this, I need to get past this.  So for those that wear wigs on a daily basis, how did you reach the point where you accepted it?

[islandgirl]

I am also wondering about wearing a wig. As someone with major MPB and transitioning later in life, I don't see much choice. I have tried to do some research as to what type of wig, natural hair or synthetic. I look forward to hearing the experiences of those who are  wearing wigs.

[JLT1]

Hi,

I started almost bald.  I'll have enough regrowth to loose the wig in another year or so.  However,  a good wig is fine.  I don't see the wig in the mirror,  I see me.  That makes everything just fine.

So don't automatically discount HRT.  But get a good wig.


Natural hair is more comfortable. ...  a good synthetic lasts longer.   I have both and they match.   I wear natural for my job and every day activities.   Synthetic one for working out and yard work or such.

Hugs

Jennifer

[suzifrommd]

I went to a wig shop and paid $125 for a nice synthetic. I look great and no one spots that I'm wearing a wig. I rarely get clocked except in spaces where people expect trans women.

[katrinaw]

I am resigned to wearing wigs, as very significant MPB from a very early age... damn, damn, damn....
I have a few Human Hair wigs, spent a bit of $$ on them, but the feel is so good, but they do need a bit more care than natural hair and non HH wigs... but, I am happy with them, I don't see a "dude in a wig". I just accept what unkindness was dealt me... and pray no one or I accidently pull it off in the wrong situation 
Having said that, the HRT and Finasteride are very gradually, I mean very, very gradually helping... but will I ever have my own back again... I have written that one off! (Please, please, please be wrong  )

L Katy

[Mariah]

The key is getting a wig that doesn't stick out and say wig to it by looking at it when it's on you. My current one I forget that isn't my own hair. I'm just waiting for my hair to get long enough where it has filled back in finally so I can ditch it, but that could be a good year away. I would rather use a wig and blend in then be stuck showing my current downfalls with my natural hair. Find something you like the color and style of that is a good fit for your coloring, body and facial features. it all might help to stop thinking of it as a wig, but as your hair instead because that is what it will be your hair. Good luck and hugs
Mariah

For those of you that wear wigs on a daily basis, how did you come to accept it?

I have been on E for two months now and have an endo appointment at the end of the month to start AA.  My MPB is significant and I am very thin on top.   I have accepted that my hair is not coming back without thousands upon thousands dollars for surgeries which I will likely not be able to afford any time soon.  So the solution for transitioning is wigs, but I am really struggling with the notion of being "a dude in a wig" for the rest of my life and always seeing him when not wearing it.

It has gotten so bad in the past few weeks that I'm seriously considering not transitioning and stopping HRT before any irreversible physical changes start.  My therapist says to not worry about this because plenty of women deal with hair loss and wear wigs - I do agree with her, and it helps, but I am not there yet.  I want to get past this, I need to get past this.  So for those that wear wigs on a daily basis, how did you reach the point where you accepted it?

[JulieWeeks]

Thank you all for your responses, it is comforting to know that I am not the only one who is folically challenged.  Mariah, your comment about blending in really stuck with me - I will remember that from now on.

There is some great advice here.  A good human hair or synthetic wig that suits me is the first step.  I know I will get past this in time and learn to love and accept my crowning glory!