Trans people can't be 100% sincere with their partners, myth or reality?

[kittenpower]

Yes, I am, I'm naturally monogamous.

[DanielleA]

My earlier years before fostercare taught my to pick my words carefully and only within the last 6 years I have learnt that honesty is a good thing. In a previous post I wrote that I wont ever tell my boyfriend/husband about my transgender thing but I am on the fence about it. Everything else though is honesty all the way.

[ganjina]

My one and only knows, and is supportive. She's more straight than bi, but I guess in general we can love each other and still have nice sex, and be happy. We've been in soon 5 years.

[Echo Eve]

I don't think trans people have a monopoly on infidelity.

[Echo Eve]

...fleeting wants.

You could argue that life is one long string of fleeting wants 

[noeleena]

Hi,

I had very few friends who I would call ether a boy or girl friend and really I was not interested  age 24 I married Jos and we stayed to gather for 35 years , and we are still friends she has married a lovely chap over a year ago .

Im one of those people who have one mate /partner and that's it I never played around and did not wont or need to , I wont quite fit your description though does not matter as the ? applys to many in a relastionship if its a only give of your self to each other and be true to each other ,  Jos and I did , till    marriage anuuld  5 years ago,

To me if you can not trust your partner to be true to each other then I don't see any trust and a real friendship relastionship is really not there and not  worth much to the two concerned ,

So if that's the case why bother having a relastionship in the first place  theres nothing to build on and wont last .

...noeleena...

[Cute Ida]

Hello Evolving Beauty,


I couldn't help but read your post. I can say for sure that I can be 100 percent sincere with my partner.  I tell her everything. We dated for 6 months but broke up due to several issues she was dealing with as well as my sexual needs which she kept putting off as well as the relationship. She was very high maintenance too. It got to a point where I had to tell her I wanted to break up with her. We did so. We were apart for 4 months.


Then a month ago she contacted me wanting to explain things. I had initially wanted to meet with her to hear her explanation but through talking with her I knew something was still there. We got back together and spend every weekend together. During the time we were apart my sexual needs got to a point where I was going to have sex with a coworker from work who is bi and knows that I'm transgender.


Normally I identify as lesbian but I was in such need of sex I was willing to try heterosexual sex. Nothing came of it cause I got back together with my girlfriend a week before it was supposed to happen. I did tell my girlfriend about the possible sexual encounter. I hadn't had sex in over 8 years. The last time I met up with my girlfriend we got really close to penetration but I couldn't get hard cause of my female hormones and due to performance anxiety. I'm 32 and my girlfriend is 38. I identify as lesbian and she identifies as pansexual. Both me and my girlfriend are monogamous.


You can be honest with your significant other. Just tell them about your desires and feelings. If they truly love you they will help you and try to find a way to ease the desires or find a way to spice up your sex life so that you don't need other encounters. I'm proof you can be sincere to your significant other.