aprox how many would guess know your trans and does that bother you

[Randi]

Bald head and large breasts...  Something strange about that.
Many assume I'm FTM, but I was born male.

I'm fine with all that.

[ana1111]

I really have no idea if people know or not when they see or interact with me...I've had mostly interactions that would make me think they don't but about a month ago something happened that makes me think some may know :/....but all my friends and all family except one aunt that lives in another state know...and idk if it bothers me...like if some random person in public knows ya that would bother me a lot but friends im fine with knowing.

[Rejennyrated]

As it has worked out, every so often, over the past 30 years that I've been postop, I've ended up moving to a new community and a new job. In all these cases I've always felt that I am happy for people to know of my past but I would prefer them to get to know me as a person first. One of the advantages of having been postop before my career started is that I've only ever been known as a woman, so there isnt any chance at all of old paperwork or records catching me out.

So I've always waited a while before being open, and that time I know for pretty well certain that no one guessed. However I have always chosen to let the information out after a while and its always quite gratifying to watch the surprise. Best one was doing it to a whole lecture theatre full of medics who had just elected me as their class representative, they probably didn't expect that, but I got re-elected the next year so go figure how well they took it. 

So no one guesses – but most people I work with as a colleague may eventually find out, and I'm fine with that. It's a very different story with patients however. There I do NOT say anything and indeed it would be quite improper for me to do so, as I am there to service their healthcare needs, and not to potentially embarrass them by revealing personal information. When I am in front of a patient, it is important that I "pass" (I don't like that term but I'll use it for clarity) 100% with absolutely no room for doubt whatsoever, and I am very lucky to be able to do so.

[DanielleA]

Very few guess that I am trans but if they found out, I am ok with it. I just don't flaunt it because my being a woman is more important to me than the GID issue behind it.

[Carrie Liz]

As far as I know, only two people who are actively involved in my life right now know. (Not counting my parents and childhood friends and friends from my old hometown, who all know.)

Frankly, yes, it bothers me. Any time that someone is still seeing my old self as my default state of existence, or seeing me as a trans woman, rather than just seeing me as a normal woman, it bothers me. Hell, it even bothers me that my mom knows. I wish with so much that I could have just been her daughter. And yet because of my past, she will never see me that way. She can't call me her daughter because it's too awkward for her, she opts to just call me her "child" instead, and I frankly don't feel like I deserve it anyway, because as much as I wish I could have been her daughter, I wasn't. I wish with so much that I could have had a girlhood, could have just been female to everyone unquestionably, since I was a kid, so that I wouldn't have to feel so different, so excluded, so much like my very right to even exist is a matter of people's political opinions. It shouldn't be. I'm normal. So it hurts whenever someone sees me as not being normal.

[stephaniec]

As far as I know, only two people who are actively involved in my life right now know. (Not counting my parents and childhood friends and friends from my old hometown, who all know.)

Frankly, yes, it bothers me. Any time that someone is still seeing my old self as my default state of existence, or seeing me as a trans woman, rather than just seeing me as a normal woman, it bothers me. Hell, it even bothers me that my mom knows. I wish with so much that I could have just been her daughter. And yet because of my past, she will never see me that way. She can't call me her daughter because it's too awkward for her, she opts to just call me her "child" instead, and I frankly don't feel like I deserve it anyway, because as much as I wish I could have been her daughter, I wasn't. I wish with so much that I could have had a girlhood, could have just been female to everyone unquestionably, since I was a kid, so that I wouldn't have to feel so different, so excluded, so much like my very right to even exist is a matter of people's political opinions. It shouldn't be. I'm normal. So it hurts whenever someone sees me as not being normal.

I know it does hurt I've tried to no avail to wipe the pain of my life living as male ,but I can't. Like I just deleted my old Facebook page that has all the people of my past on there and a p-icture of how I use to look. I just couldn't take it any more and I rely on my true Facebook page. It helps, but it can't change the pain of growing up totally wrong.

[Mariah]

It's hard to say because in most cases they are gradually forgetting this fact. Do I care not really. I'm proud of who I am what I needed to do to live as true authentic self.
Mariah