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feeling hopeless and desparate about getting a job or some kind of income

Started by ana1111, April 08, 2015, 11:34:41 PM

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Asheylov

Annabolton, i know how you feel, i recently had a interview and. was ask about The Australian Tertiary Admission Rank (ATAR), for the job. i was already with a right diploma / degree. and then i was asked  a inappropriate question from the interviewer.

Interviewer: At the time was sick, working 2 jobs and pissed off .

Inappropriate Question: what gender are you ?


After that question i asked her why she needed to know. she said i had put nothing about my gender on my resume.

shorter ending:  After all that i didn't get the job.


But Annabolton  i agree it is hard to find a job. I'm on everyday looking for a building surveyor job :(

maybe 1 in 50 that i put out  would get a response for me. but that's due to the need.


i hope you find a job soon good luck.


hugs lov

ash


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IdontEven

It seems as if you're having anxiety issues regarding interacting with other people. While I understand the monetary concerns, it may be better if you were to try and get to where you're comfortable interacting with people before you try and hold a job. Don't want to overwhelm yourself and end up negatively reinforcing whatever fears and worries you may have. Take small, mildly uncomfortable steps. Stop and appreciate the progress you've made, then take the next one.

To that end, might I recommend finding somewhere cool to volunteer? There's a website or two out there that will match volunteers to volunteer opportunities. Research the organizations and what they're looking for, shoot out a few emails, and pick somewhere that appeals to you.

The place I'm volunteering is basically gardening on a large scale (165+ acres I believe the head groundskeeper said!). It's a good combination of physical labor and casual social interaction. Most of the other volunteers are retirees, since it's done on a weekday. They're happy to have the help and are very kind and pleasant to talk to, and I can just focus on my work if a conversation doesn't go to plan.

It also provides some networking opportunity as another poster here has mentioned, though it can be a bit outdated since they're all retired. Although often when dealing with older folks when you do find a connection that's still in the workforce they're in the upper echelons due to being so advanced in their careers, so...ya never know who you'll end up being introduced to!

While it might not solve all your problems directly, just getting out and interacting with other people casually can go a long way toward developing self confidence and the ability to socialize in a healthy way, which makes you happier, makes any potential interviews easier, etc etc.

Also I'll join the ever-present chorus of recommending finding a good therapist, if it's at all an option. They can give you support and guidance in dealing with anxiety and any other issues, and just being able to talk, vent, or rant can often lend clarity to your own thoughts and feelings. If you can't get a therapist then just keep making posts here at Susan's!

Something to think about at least, good luck!
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