So last week I flew out to Pennsylvania (I am from Indiana) to spend the week with my fiance'. For those of you who don't know, we met online in Second Life and been together for three years in a long distant relationship. The purpose of last week was to spend time together before making the wedding engagement official.
It's official.
So Sunday, first full day back, my uncle calls and talks to my mom. My dad has not been supportive of me transitioning but my mom has been. She calls me by my name Lexi, calls me with correct pronouns and everything. So I over hear the conversation, and of course my dad was in on it too, and my uncle was saying it was disgusting that I am happy (exact words) and I have turned into a full fledged woman. He was going off about how my photos of me in my outfits were terrible, and his wife wonders why they still let me live there, which, by the one, his wife does NOT know me or my immediate family.. we have NEVER met her and so how can she be trying to give advice? Ignorant people!
Anyways, I immediately defriended my mom's brother (refuse to call him uncle at this point) off facebook. Then I heard in the other room my parents basically making fun of me, laughing about my posts of being happy, mocking my comments, and things of that nature. Then what struck me the hardest, when my dad said "I can't wait till 'he' gets married, changes 'his' last name, so he won't be recognized by this family anymore".
I called my fiance', all in tears, telling him I can't put up with another month of this abuse. My mother two facing me, them making fun of me practically teasing me, and my sanity needs it to end. He told me he's here waiting on me. That night, I packed up all my personal things, all the things I can fit in my car, and drove all night to PA and arrived at 5 o'clock in the morning.
Now, the abuse has ended. I am happy, I feel safe, I don't feel like I am walking on egg shells. His parents know I am a trans female and totally supportive of me. I feel like I am finally home.
Anyways, wanted to get this off my chest. Guess my message is, those who are going through the tough times of family, just hang in there. I been dealing with this for a long time and feels like a lot of weight lifted.
Lexi
