I'm in new York state, and apparently whatever law that the governor passed regarding having private insurance companies cover trans surgery, was awesome. I got insurance through work in September, and my friends encouraged me to at least try to see if insurance would cover my surgery. (At this point I didn't know about whatever new law). I scheduled a consult, and waited a month for my insurance company to get back to me after the consult. They asked for documents saying how long I've been on testosterone, how long I've been living as male, and a letter from a psychologist saying that I'm mentally sound or whatever. Got all that and sent it and they ended up approving my surgery, and all I have to pay is a $150 copay. I'm listed as male on my insurance and everything else and they still covered it as a bilateral breast reduction, but it was done as a double incision surgery with nipple graphs like most top surgeries.
So what I'm saying is, don't give up hope. I've wanted surgery for 8 years, but I gave up on it ever happening years ago. But by some whim I finally got a break and got it done. You will too