I seem stuck in the "male" role. What do I do?

[Jayne]

well, good luck , maybe once you have a few dates behind you can navigate the waters better. There are female navigators aren't there?

Yes there are, i've heard they're better than men at navigating because they're not ashamed to ask for directions 

[Wild Flower]

Im a Bella Swan at dating.... so dont ask me.  I let men decide everything.... if he doesnt then he loses my attraction.

[Emily E]

Maybe this is why I've never been able to keep it going with anyone. I'm dooming myself to being alone.

Don't let the shackles of the past pull you down... even with everything we know from being men its still going to be a steep learning curve to become proficient at everything as a woman so take this opportunity to learn and over come what you felt were short comings and become a better woman for it.

If you want to be the one taken care of or in a sub role in a relationship you really need to be with the right women (one that's willing to be dominant) and force yourself to let her run the show (it wont be easy for you as a former man) so that you can learn how to act in that role and if you move on from her and continue to act in that way its likely the next women who approaches you will be dominant as they will naturally be attracted to Sub women.