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Can't pass but don't know why, please help?

Started by Carley Anne D, April 28, 2015, 08:57:02 PM

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Anna++

Passing is about more than just looks, mannerisms, or voice.  Easily 90% of it is your confidence levels, so others might be picking up on something if you're walking around worried about how you're blending in.  Maybe get some friends together and go out somewhere that makes you feel relaxed?

Remember:  If you look like you know what you're doing, then you can get away with anything!
Sometimes I blog things

Of course I'm sane.  When trees start talking to me, I don't talk back.



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mmmmm

Well, you need to post more facially revealing photos (with good light), if you want to recieve a fair observation on face. By posting two photos like this, you will only get "you pass 100% hun, I'm jealous" here on this forum, and this is not very helpful when you go out and are still being misgendered, or is it? 

Being 6 months on hormones (If I read correctly), that shouldn't really help with passing yet, other than helping you with confidence. It takes time, a lot of it, before feminine body shape is formed. Be patient, and be smart with clothing choices, some feminine clothes can work against you if you don't have enough curves.
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Hannah Samira

I'm going to repeat what everyone else has said but you definitely pass in these photos :) I definitely see a cute woman and wouldn't have known if I had passed you in the street!! :) xx
Twitter: @HannahSamira14
Instagram: @hannah_samira14

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kittenpower

Quote from: mmmmm on April 29, 2015, 08:48:48 AM
Well, you need to post more facially revealing photos (with good light), if you want to recieve a fair observation on face. By posting two photos like this, you will only get "you pass 100% hun, I'm jealous" here on this forum, and this is not very helpful when you go out and are still being misgendered, or is it? 

Being 6 months on hormones (If I read correctly), that shouldn't really help with passing yet, other than helping you with confidence. It takes time, a lot of it, before feminine body shape is formed. Be patient, and be smart with clothing choices, some feminine clothes can work against you if you don't have enough curves.
I totally agree with this, if your personal experience in the real world, tells you that you do not pass, then no amount of these well meaning positive comments here at Susan's is going to change that. I looked at your photos from my iPhone, but they are small, and I could not zoom in on them for an honest evaluation.
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snackattack

Speaking of passing.
As I walked out of the dollar store in my neighborhood. A Woman was talking across the parking lot to a little girl (with her head out of the car window), not sure if they are related but, the woman said, oh she looks like my daughter, which I walked past between the woman and the car with the little girl in it. The woman referred to me as the daughter look-a-like (since I was the only person between them) and guess what the little girl clocked me and said, no "That's a boy!". The woman yelled at the little girl and said, no "Mira, me", that's a Girl, ya know. Look at her pigtails and slender body and boobs (my fake boobs). The little girl kept insisting, no that's a boy. The woman, yelled at her again and said, look, that's a girl "Mira me", look "Mira, thats a freakin girl".
So I walked past them and smiled, as I was read as a girl. The woman wins because she has the most life experience compared to the little girl (who probably around 5 or 6 years old), but little kids have been trained early on to be segregated into male and female boxes in school and toys. Who knows, the woman may have thought me as trans or both a girl passing in her eyes.

I live in NYC, so "Mira" is a word I keep hearing especially in hispanic communities.
HRT Official Transition Date: Sun, April 5th 2015.
Name: Jazlyn.
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Teela Renee

Your beautiful. I'd be asking you out if you lived near me.   appearance wise, your totally good. the only thing might be your mannerisms? without shadowing you for a day or two I wouldn't be able to tell you whats wrong. But I woulda never guessed. You look cis to me. 
RedNeck girls have all the fun 8)
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Kova V

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Aoife

I honestly didn't read every comment, but if no one else has said it and you want honesty...I think perhaps (and I can't tell from the pic) but maybe people may be misgendering you cause they see an adams apple. Also how is your posture? that can give people away sometimes. Just the other day I came across a trans girl i'd never seen before and I immediatly knew. Maybe being trans allows me to see clues that might not be visible to others idk, but I had no doubt in my mind that that person was trans. Clues were posture, hairline, larger fingers and adams apple.
- Jenni
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Erica_Y

Well you seem to be in a position where pictures may not tell the whole story. Passing is such a overall package thing no matter what a picture looks like. If I may suggest and if you can feel comfortable doing it the best and most accurate feedback you can probably hope for is from the people that miss-gendered you out in the real world. If you ask nicely and explain why perhaps they will share what tipped them off and then you can focus on the things that have you caught up in the real world and you can attend to those things what ever they are. The gig is up once they have miss-gendered you so you could take the opportunity if it feels right to find out why, then there is no guessing and you can focus your energy on the correct things especially if 2-4 people keep referencing the same things.
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Alysinspace

Quote from: Carley Anne D on April 28, 2015, 08:57:02 PM
Hey everybody! I haven't been on here in a while.... But lately I've been pretty depressed about not passing. I'm 6'2" and I weigh 140 pounds now. I'm pretty thin and don't have much in the way of cleavage... Ive been on hormones over half a year now and I don't know what to change to look passable... Please be honest, I have zero clue what to do :,( http://s288.photobucket.com/user/xxcarleykittxx/library/?sort=3&src=pb_unauth&page=1

i saw this and literally all i saw was a girl.
I get gendered female all the time and you look way better than me!

I dont see anything wrong
only thing could be maybe your voice?  Since non of us had heard it
but even then
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Kyra553

I see nothing wrong with your overall image. Perhaps its not based entirely on female attire that might be throwing peoples perspectives off.   But my best guess is that your height causing the issues. Look into some topics about tall girls and what they have to deal with and see if it relates to you.

Also six months is nothing for HRT changes. Give yourself a year or two to see the real effects. =)
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