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Stumbled on high school crush - "fate" or just chance

Started by Kelly_1979, April 27, 2015, 12:51:54 PM

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Kelly_1979

Not that important and maybe just chance but...

Today I saw in the metro the girl I had my first real crush while in high school. The funny thing is yesterday for some reason I was looking up my old classmates on google (not such thing as a site to find them) and I found out how she looks now. I mean, it was a chance in like a million to stumble on her. As she sat on the seat opposite me I started thinking "Omg it can't be...". I thought it was like 0.1% chance it was really her but I HAD to ask her. I told her "excuse me...are you Mrs "last name". Her: "Yes" . Me: "First name _ Last name". Her: "Yes". Me: "It can't be". She couldn't remember me right away (well I hadn't shaved and it's been like 19 years since we last met (we're both 35). We chatted a bit...she still lives in the same region she used to back then. She still hasn't got married nor she has any children (that's not really uncommon but it was kinda weird...I expected her to have children).

I am kind of atheist but these circumstances (was it just luck?) kinda creep me up.   I liked that we saw each other after these years. Obviously I didn't tell her how I felt back then since it's a thing of the past but it sure made my heart skip a bit.
Yesterday I saw in the metro the girl I had my first real crush while in high school. The funny thing is yesterday for some reason I was looking up my old classmates on google (not such thing as a site to find them) and I found out how she looks now. I mean, it was a chance in like a million to stumble on her. As she sat on the seat opposite me I started thinking "Omg it can't be...". I thought it was like 0.1% chance it was really her but I HAD to ask her. I told her "excuse me...are you Mrs "last name". Her: "Yes" . Me: "First name _ Last name". Her: "Yes". Me: "It can't be". She couldn't remember me right away (well I hadn't shaved and it's been like 19 years since we last met (we're both 35). We chatted a bit...she still lives in the same region she used to back then. She still hasn't got married nor she has any children (that's not really uncommon but it was kinda weird...I expected her to have children).

I am kind of atheist but these circumstances (was it just luck?) kinda creep me up.   I liked that we saw each other after these years. Obviously I didn't tell her how I felt back then since it's a thing of the past but it sure made my heart skip a bit.


edit: I really need to forget about it but can't. Especially since she told me she's still single. I know years have passed and nothing's gonna happen. Even I don't want anything to happen, considering hers and my behavior 18 years ago. She's still quite cute though. ef it.

Forgot to add, among the things she asked me was where I'm going out in the evenings, to which I responded I really don't go out a lot.

Ok this is a bit silly. I found in her fb a post where she mentioned her best man. Yet I didn't see her wearing any ring. Why is she(probably) lying about being single? I don't want to friend on fb .i don't want to look like a stalker. Any idea (since I probably blew my chance- if I had any that is)?
Trying to emerge to my real self
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Ms Grace

I'm more of a mind that random stuff coincides with other random stuff, but doesn't make it fate. Congrats on bumping into an old crush though, can still happen even in a big city.
Grace
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marsh monster

fate is really just stuff happening because people make choices to do stuff. If either one of you had chose to do B instead of A, then you wouldn't have seen her, something else could have happened, like seeing someone different you hadn't seen in forever or seeing no one you knew or anything else. 

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awilliams1701

I my world this is highly unusual. Male or Female, I'm the only one my age that isn't at least married. I would say most have kids married or not.

Quote from: kelly_1979 on April 27, 2015, 12:51:54 PM
Not that important and maybe just chance but...

Today I saw in the metro the girl I had my first real crush while in high school. The funny thing is yesterday for some reason I was looking up my old classmates on google (not such thing as a site to find them) and I found out how she looks now. I mean, it was a chance in like a million to stumble on her. As she sat on the seat opposite me I started thinking "Omg it can't be...". I thought it was like 0.1% chance it was really her but I HAD to ask her. I told her "excuse me...are you Mrs "last name". Her: "Yes" . Me: "First name _ Last name". Her: "Yes". Me: "It can't be". She couldn't remember me right away (well I hadn't shaved and it's been like 19 years since we last met (we're both 35). We chatted a bit...she still lives in the same region she used to back then. She still hasn't got married nor she has any children (that's not really uncommon but it was kinda weird...I expected her to have children).

I am kind of atheist but these circumstances (was it just luck?) kinda creep me up.   I liked that we saw each other after these years. Obviously I didn't tell her how I felt back then since it's a thing of the past but it sure made my heart skip a bit.

Feel free to write your own experiences.

edit: I really need to forget about it but can't. Especially since she told me she's still single. I know years have passed and nothing's gonna happen. Even I don't want anything to happen, considering hers and my behavior 18 years ago. She's still quite cute though. ef it.
Ashley
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awilliams1701

As for the actual topic of fate or a higher power, I do believe there is something.
Accepting my self as trans was the result of 100s of different things happening in the right order at the right time.
I got into a nasty car accident once. They said I should have been killed, but I didn't even have a scratch on me. I should have also either drowned or frozen to death, but everything worked out. There was a guy that happened to be in the right place at the right time. He saw my car go out of control. He put me in his car, turned the heat up, happened to have a blanket and put it on me. He saved my life.

How many people do you know of that keep blankets in their cars?
Ashley
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marsh monster

When I lived in the mountains, I always kept a few blankets in the trunk. Anywhere its cold a lot, people should do that as you never know what could happen.
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awilliams1701

I was living in central ohio. There are no mountains.
Ashley
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sparrow

I don't believe in fate, but I do believe in love.  Relationships that start on a coincidence can be amazing!  Sounds like she's interested to me... and if not in romance, in friendship.  Friend her on fb already!  I mean, how else can you figure out what's really up, other than getting into contact with her?

As for the best man thing... weddings can get called off, and divorces after a month are shockingly common.
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Kelly_1979

Micro update....

She apparently checks her fb page every now and then. Today she checked it and accepted my friend request. I haven't done anything up to this point (like message her and ask for her number). Dunno....
Trying to emerge to my real self
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