1) before transition I was unhappy but very social and friendly
2) after transition I am happier but very asocial and very cold.
I am happier today. I am happier with less people in my life. I focus on quality and not quantity. It is visceral, atavic need of the interlocutor to put you into the "male category" if you do not pass. To most people, no matter how liberal they are, transsexuals are fake women.
This evokes the concept of "Uncanny Valley", coined in 1970 by the Japanese roboticist Masahiro Mori. Mori suggested that people react positively to androids (humanlike robots) for as long as they differ from real humans in meaningful and discernible ways. But the minute these contraptions come to resemble humans uncannily, though imperfectly, human observers tend to experience repulsion, revulsion, and other negative emotions, including fear.
That is why unpassable crossdressers are seen as jokes, and not as a threat, and they are more likely to elicit a laugh and sympathy than a transsexual who has gone a long way to become passable.
