do you think there is an absolute sure way not to regret GRS

[Alysinspace]

I'm on the path to GRS and I'm totally sure that once I make the final decision and lie on that table there will absolutely be no regrets. I've lived with this way too long to turn back so I know once its done I'll have fulfilled a life long dream and I'll find peace. I was just curious of those who plan on doing GRS if you have any totally sure way mentally that you know your doing the best thing possible.

Yep GRS is a must for me I am a complete 100% woman and having this extra baggage is the only thing that is capable of igniting my dysphoria I know when I get the surgery 10 years down the road there will be no regrets.

Theres no strategy to make me think this its simply who I am.

My surgery is planned for next year but what i mean to clarify is 10 years down after getting it I wont regret it.

[OCAnne]

'do you think there is an absolute sure way not to regret GRS'

Hello everyone, I will undergo SRS in 6 days and if ever I had any doubt about my choice it was eliminated yesterday by simply having to use the restroom.

On assignment at The Billboard Music Awards in Las Vegas.  If you watch E! Network, I help bring you live coverage of the event via satellite!

With that said; No surprise the restrooms are half a mile away.  After making numerous trips to the distant restroom, I decided to try one located much closer, in the pool area.  After walking through a sea of people I made my way to the women's restroom.  Waiting in a long line with others all wearing swimsuits.  I noticed everyone looked great.  They looked great not because they were gorgeous but because they were all woman without a penis and associated budge.

All of them were enjoying a very simple freedom 'being themselves'. Being a pre-op transsexual woman I am unable to enjoy the same freedom.

My rush to undergo SRS ASAP deals with the pain caused by these daily situations that often cripple me.  I am 'intensely transsexual', for me SRS is the only cure and can't come fast enough.

At this point the only regret would be screwing up my SRS date.  I have been warned by surgeon not to get arrested, lost, injured, stressed or sick.

If you're looking for some absolute sure ways why SRS is right, here are mine:

I want to wear a black fitted one piece or bikini-bathing suit, hell make it white.
I want to wear fitted skirts, dresses, shorts and jeans.
Enter a public restroom where my only choice is to sit down to pee.
Wake up in the morning and look down and say it's right.
Feel warm water rush past my smooth pubic area while showering.
I want to buy panty liners and even look forward to the occasional 'not so fresh feeling'.
I want to have vaginal intercourse.
My gender will be confirmed. (GCS)
Be taken by a man and for him to take his pleasure.
Absolutely looking forward to missionary style sex.
Receive proper medical care from paramedics/EMT' and first responders (Don't want to be the talk back at the firehouse)

Very sure I could go on and on but most importantly my body will now match my mind.  The horror will end.  My wish would provide SRS to anyone who needs it.  More work is needed to make sure that is more than just a wish.

In closing, yes I am a transsexual woman who wants what other women have, freedom to just be and pursue happiness.  My penis gets in the way of all that.  It must go!

Thank you

[stephaniec]

sounds good

[stephaniec]

Well. I've got a year to make the final decision on my GRS. I'm going to be starting genital electrolysis soon. I'm going to make the appointment in the morning. Within the years time I will have more therapy sessions with my therapist whom I've been seeing for two and a half years . She's talking to the  Psychiatrists on staff about how much time they want to spend with me to get the referral letter from them. She's going to give me the other referral letter and my Primary care doctor will give me the letter for having HRT. So in a years time I will be good to go and as I'm lying on the operating table I should be able to say with all awareness lets get this done.I'll report back in a years time and give an update.

[Dahlia]

There isn't. Sometimes people develop second thoughts/mild/severe regret 5, 10, 15 or even 20 years post SRS.
Whereas they were over the moon with happiness the first few months/years post srs.

(Severe) TS feelings can be dynamic and/or fluctuate over the years, it seems.

[stephaniec]

thanks for the reply

[awilliams1701]

For me there is one reason and one reason alone. I hate it. I've hated it since puberty and my hatred of it has only grown over the years. Since coming out to myself my hatred of it has grown significantly faster than previously. I don't want SRS I NEED SRS.

With that said I just met a woman that said she loved who she is both inside and out and didn't need nor want SRS.

You need to understand why SRS would be right for you. With my intense hatred, I'm more than reasonably certain I won't regret it.

[stephaniec]

I'm really at the point to use a legal expression : beyond a reasonable doubt. I've mentally have tried to ignore it since I was a kid. When I was 19 a man made love to me sexually that bypassed the thing and made me feel so much like a woman I've never forgotten that experience. I want so much to experience a man take me into another world., but I also want to be physically anatomically the woman I am inside. I'd also like to wear a very skimpy bikini.

[Beth Andrea]

There isn't. Sometimes people develop second thoughts/mild/severe regret 5, 10, 15 or even 20 years post SRS.
Whereas they were over the moon with happiness the first few months/years post srs.

(Severe) TS feelings can be dynamic and/or fluctuate over the years, it seems.

Yes, this is possible. But then, so is choosing to not have SRS, and regretting that choice.

And in either case, the knowledge that "I made the best choice for me, given what I knew at the time" will help immensely to mitigate any regret one might have.

[awilliams1701]

Beyond a reasonable doubt is perfect. I can't claim 100% I won't regret it. I don't think anyone can. But I can beyond a reasonable doubt.

I'm really at the point to use a legal expression : beyond a reasonable doubt. I've mentally have tried to ignore it since I was a kid. When I was 19 a man made love to me sexually that bypassed the thing and made me feel so much like a woman I've never forgotten that experience. I want so much to experience a man take me into another world., but I also want to be physically anatomically the woman I am inside. I'd also like to wear a very skimpy bikini.