I've Written an Email to my Father

[Wynternight]

My very stubborn, hard core right-wing, Fox News viewing, homophobic father. I'm working up the courage to hit send. I won't do it tonight because I know I won't sleep but probably will tomorrow morning.

I'm very much afraid this will be my first outright rejection in my transition.

[Cindy]

Hugs Hon.

Sometimes knowing you are rejected can empower you to move on and put that part of your life behind you - even if it is family.

But I hope he responds with love and support to his wonderful daughter.

[ChiGirl]

Good idea to sleep on it just in case you think of something to edit. Good luck & hugs!

[katrinaw]

hugs, feel for you... but I guess you can't hide it for ever... maybe it is sleep on it, if you can.

Good luck with either decision 

L Katy

[Julia-Madrid]

Dear Wynternight

It may not be that bad - your brother worked out fine, despite your nerves.

If your family is into things like love, mutual support and self-achievement, emphasise these things in your email.

Good luck, and let us know how it goes.

Julia

[Wynternight]

I hit the send button this morning. There's nothing to do now but wait.

[Laura_7]

Envision a positive outcome and send positive emotions this way.

It helps.

Hope for the best.

I'd say simply be a bit guarded but be yourself.

Have a *hug*

[Julia-Madrid]

You'll be fine.  Be strong and be yourself!

[FTMax]

Hugs! Let us know how it goes. Crossing my fingers that you get a good response!

[stephaniec]

good luck, you'll be all right whatever happens it's your life.

[Wynternight]

My father and I have always had a stormy relationship. We've argued, threatened, been close to blows on many ocassions so I did not go into this with high hopes. Add to that his years of very vocal homophobia and any hopes I had were dim, at best.

He responded to me this morning and I have to say I'm on the verge of tears. If not for being at work I would be crying at what he wrote. He wrote a letter of such love and support that it took my breath away. I was close to hyperventilating reading it. He told me he was behind me 1000% and that he loves me and whatever I need to do to be happy then I go ahead and do it. There's more but that's the basic idea.

I feel like the weight of the world is off my shoulders. I have all of my immediate family behind me now which is an amasing feeling.

I'm still kind of stunned.

[Laura_7]

Congratulations

[traci_k]

That is so awesome to hear. Congratulations!

[Athena]

Glad to hear things went well for you

[marsh monster]

good to hear that he supports you.


my dad was similar, listened to Glen Beck  and Dr. Laura too, but he supported me, even helped pay some of the doctor bills associated with it. After he passed, I found that he had also saved the very first Birthday card I gave him as his daughter. So you never know, you can't write people off before you try.

[stephaniec]

I'm so happy for you . It's so great when you have love backing you up. congrats

[awilliams1701]

That's awesome. I'm happy for you.

Its the possibility of something positive like this happening as to why we shouldn't put it off. They are going to react the way they react and nothing we do will change that.

[Matthew]

God, I'm so happy for you!!!

(((HUGS)))

[Devlyn]

I'm late in, but yays! I'm really glad it went well for you.

Hugs, Devlyn

[Julia-Madrid]

And so, stunned Wynternight, it's even possible for Fox News viewers to be human, occasionally

I am so very pleased for you! Perhaps this will herald a better understanding between you and your father - it's a possibility.  After years of not understanding each other, now might be a time when he finally understands why you are the person you are.

You can go to sleep happy tonight, and don't create any worries or new obstacles for yourself, at least until tomorrow! 

Hugs
Julia