How to be a good father figure for my girlfriends 4 yr old daugter?

[Brandon]

This is a pretty straight forward question, how can I be a good father figure in her life, she's really starting to get attached to me but I don't mind it.

[MacG]

Treat your girlfriend and the child with respect. (Not that you don't)
Think about what you value in yourself and what you admire. Strive for that.

And... Have ongoing discussion. With you girlfriend about your role in her child's life. Make sure you're both on the same page about this.

[Laura_7]

Well I'd say look what kind of individual she is and give her what she needs...

often people try to give what they feel they have missed in their childhood, but young people are idividuals...
she might need reassurance, or she might be sensitive and need someone to lean on...

often people feel that intuitively.


And you might try to give some kind of emotional stability...


otherwise I'd say have fun, be yourself...
and oh young people tend to pick up a lot and tend to see much more than imagined...
so you might try to be a good example... if she would see you swindling for example she might try to copy that.

hugs

[Brandon]

Thanks for the advice guys 

[CursedFireDean]

Good on you man for trying to be a good father figure for her. I know I'm totally not ready to be a father, and it amazes me that people my age are able to do that, it definitely takes a special person our age to be ready for that. Some circumstances have made my girlfriend and I seriously look at ourselves and think about whether we could be parents in the near future, and for me, the answer is definitely no.

As people have said, make sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page about you want for her daughter, what types of morals and values you want to make sure she understands, etc. Make sure to support her and help her do the things she wants to do, if you're able. As Laura said, try to see what it is she needs the most and help provide her with that. Providing any sort of stability is great. Do what makes her happy, what makes her smile, and be a good role model.

[Brandon]

This is some really great advice.