Is this even possible? I feel like the next step in my transition is to actually adopt a male role in daily social life, but I'm pre-T and will never even slightly resemble a man without hormones. Or maybe I'm just being pessimistic.
Do you have any suggestions? I just want to be able to go to the store or downtown to see a friend without wondering who people see when they speak to me. In certain instances it's very important, e.g. "Is this guy striking up a convo with me as a manbuddy or as a potential piece of vagina?" The answer to that question determines how and whether I even talk to him.
I've been meaning to get into music and I thought about joining some forums with a male identity. But then what about when I start talking about my personal life, or what about when I tell them that the female vocals in the music are mine? What if I don't pass in my photos? I'd feel like a liar. Partly because I'm not really a man, I'm an androgyne, so I can't be gung-ho assertive about my masculine identity because that's not actually who I am. The question I dread most is "What are you really?" because I can't give an answer that the common binary person can understand. Whether I insist I'm a man or admit I'm a woman--both are lies. But I'd rather be perceived as male, and that's why I want to experience what this really feels like.
I also wonder, what if I'm not really non-binary, I'm just a man and can't admit it because I'm afraid, or I don't know what it feels like to be one? So I'm really craving this experience as a next step on my transgender journey. Do you have any tips for me?