Thank you so much Dena and myfairlady49 for your replies - really appreciate it.
I realised from my first post I was all over the place with regards to what plastic surgery will be necessary to feminise my face. Just from previous google searches, I noticed MTF FFS had the best results (the girls are way more feminine than me

and hence I decided to settle for a FFS Plastic Surgeon. In South Africa - plastic surgery usually revolves around the usual boob job, liposuction and standard rhinoplasty (and they do not like working on Indians / thick skin patients) etc. Only one doctor specifically specialises in gender reassignment surgery (but not so much FFS) and the other doctor 'sort of' works with FFS (without specifically mentioning FFS on his web page) - unfortunately, when I went to see the latter - he rushed my consultation and seemed 'trigger happy' to give me a 'scooped nose' and did not discuss the complication of chin shaving etc - he showed me a computerised image of my face being shorter and he was happy with it - I was horrified. I could see my jaw needed to be adjusted as well and he did not take that into consideration. When I mentioned it to him - he said I don't need to adjust my jaw (either because he can't do it or he really thought I didn't need it - but my money is on the former judgement

Other specialist oral and maxillofacial surgeons etc I guess only work with truely required medical cases here in South Africa (accident victims, birth defects etc) and I want a surgeon who will put the whole puzzle together - and not just concentrate on one aspect on my face.
I'm taking a chance here - hope I'm not breaking any admin rules here - pictures of myself are posted on realself -
http://www.realself.com/question/south-africa-za-nose-job-eye-job-chin-job (can't seem to insert images here?)
I was tempted to go to South Korea for surgery - but from another google review search, those transformations are fake / photo shopped big time. From
Susans.org - I am considering going to Doctor Rossi in Argentina. Money is a problem. Considering cashing out my pension and going by myself

(my family and friends do not support me with my quest for plastic surgery - yet they are the ones constantly picking on my looks - mother, older sister and boyfriend are my worst critics - felt very suicidal about the comments they made about me to my face. So now when I am trying to do something about it - they don't want me to - urg, double standards

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I don't have anyone else to talk to so I really apologise for rambling on and on. I don't have a lot of money so trying to find a surgeon who will help me in one go.
Anymore thoughts, advice, experience and guidance will be greatly appreciated.