If your not atracted to the opposite gender how do you feel being checked out

[stephaniec]

Well, I'm bi so I take what I can get from anyone as far as checking me out when I'm in public. the more I transition the more I really enjoy men looking at me and drooling . It's really a fun feeling. Just wondering how those that are only sexually attracted to one gender find it while transitioning when the gender their not sexually attracted to tries to come on to you or scan you physically like an airport body scanner. There are exceptions for me though. I was in a grocery store awhile ago sitting on a bench and this extra large butcher kept looking at me like I was a pork chop, not a fun feeling.

[KylieW]

I haven't even begun transitioning but I've been to quite a few gay bars and get checked out by the guys there all the time. No interest in the men, but at the same time it does feel kinda nice knowing that someone at least thinks I'm good enough to look at. I see no reason for things to change after I transition, even if the guys are still looking at me. 😀 Just means that I'm good enough to be looked at.

[Teela Renee]

I'm not attracted to men in the slightest, but I have good friends that are males, but as far as being checked out by men goes, I don't mind it, just makes me feel extra feminine. But I do seriously get annoyed when they don't get the hint im a lesbian and I'm not interested.

[Beth Andrea]

I rather like it, unless they look/act like a perv.

[Ms Grace]

I don't mind being checked out but I don't like being hit on.

[Lady Smith]

I strongly dislike cis men either checking me out or hitting on me.  Normal social interaction or conversation fine, but the moment things move towards them being attracted to me I can feel nothing but disgust for them.  On some inner level as far as I'm concerned we're not even members of the same species so they can f**k off.

And yes I know I'm not in a good place at the moment because I'm not well, but that's exactly how I feel about it with all the polite camouflage stripped off.

[marsh monster]

I'm asexual and I just tend to ignore it.

[kittenpower]

I strongly dislike cis men either checking me out or hitting on me.  Normal social interaction or conversation fine, but the moment things move towards them being attracted to me I can feel nothing but disgust for them.  On some inner level as far as I'm concerned we're not even members of the same species so they can f**k off.

And yes I know I'm not in a good place at the moment because I'm not well, but that's exactly how I feel about it with all the polite camouflage stripped off.

Wow, just wow

[Beth Andrea]

I strongly dislike cis men either checking me out or hitting on me.  Normal social interaction or conversation fine, but the moment things move towards them being attracted to me I can feel nothing but disgust for them.  On some inner level as far as I'm concerned we're not even members of the same species so they can f**k off.

And yes I know I'm not in a good place at the moment because I'm not well, but that's exactly how I feel about it with all the polite camouflage stripped off.

+1 for pure honesty

[Zoetrope]

I live for it.

I will pretend not to notice, then at the last second make eye contact as if to say, 'well, whatcha gonna do about it?'

:~]

[stephaniec]

I live for it.

I will pretend not to notice, then at the last second make eye contact as if to say, 'well, whatcha gonna do about it?'

:~]

I'm getting the same way

[Laura_Squirrel]

Even though I am not attracted to men, there has been a few times where I've been hit on. There's a small part of me that didn't mind it. Only because it just validated the point that a lot of people actually do see me as female. But, I would certainly prefer a girl over a guy.

[Urban Christina]

I strongly dislike cis men either checking me out or hitting on me.  Normal social interaction or conversation fine, but the moment things move towards them being attracted to me I can feel nothing but disgust for them.  On some inner level as far as I'm concerned we're not even members of the same species so they can f**k off.

And yes I know I'm not in a good place at the moment because I'm not well, but that's exactly how I feel about it with all the polite camouflage stripped off.

I'm attracted to men (aka ->-bleeped-<-s) but don't blame you at all. They can be creeps at times.

[JoanneB]

Being "Checked Out" makes me nervous. At 6ft tall and generally more girlie girl then average woman, I tend to stand out. standing out in my far younger days was a very bad thing. Never the less, I try to read the situation with an open mind, and after a very short "control yourself girl" period it's GREAT! Who cannot enjoy knowing that even as an old fossil, guys are attracted to you as a woman. Which can only mean.....

Being "Hit On" I have very limited experience with to date. If you ignore the Jackie Gleason "Hamana hamana hamana hamana" brain smoking when asked "Where is your husband?"; I love the affirmation that I actually can be a desirable Old Bat. Sure beats the "Kill the Monster" I got got in my 20's

[Sabrina]

I don't mind being checked out by either gender. I do however mind being checked out by creeps. Just weirds me out.

[stephaniec]

I don't mind being checked out by either gender. I do however mind being checked out by creeps. Just weirds me out.

yea I'd be happy if all the creeps stayed under their rocks

[antonia]

I think it's totally natural, even CIS women check out other women to see how they measure up, getting attention is nice but getting unwanted attention is not. If you tell a guy/girl that you are not interested and they keep staring that's creep territory, someone looking too often just means they are shy and I can totally relate

Guy's are just guys, they are supercharged with testosterone to ogle everything that moves and has a butt or breasts, can't really hold it against them... 

[Sydney_NYC]

It's certainly validating and as long as it's not creepy, I'm OK with it. I have been creeped out a few times by men. Once I had a guy catcall my in the grocery store and then started following me around. Luckily I ran into the store manager that has known my wife and I years (and wasn't surprised at all when I transitioned) as I needed to ask why they stopped carrying dairy free ice cream. (My wife has a casein allergy.) I think the guy though I might be saying something about him following me as he quickly left after that.

[Jennygirl]

When I started looking feminine, I got hit on a lot- both by randoms and even within my group of friends. That continued to the point where I got used to it, and then I think I started putting off a different energy... One that kind of said "no" in a polite way where they don't even try. I think it's an eye contact or expression sort of thing. It's definitely something that cannot be taught, you just have to figure out yourself how to fend them off when you don't want it.

There will always be the pressing jerks that hit you up no matter what. You'll get better at dealing with those, too, as time goes on 😉

[kelly_aus]

I think the word I'm looking for is 'Whatever..'