Best friend is pregnant and now I'm clucky

[Nicole]

My best friend, who is getting married in a few weeks (maid of honour speaking) told me a few weeks ago that she was 6 weeks pregnant. Now I've never wanted kids, I've never really liked them, but get on with other friends kids fairy well, however I've always been a bit "standoffish" when it comes to children for myself.
The last few weeks, since being told Charlotte was pregnant I've been so clucky, I'm seeing kids in parks playing and having fun where before I would see them and think "poor mother having to clean them later", I'm smiling at babies in prams, I find myself looking at baby clothes for Char' already and can't wait to buy them.
What the hell is wrong with me??? Am I getting soft or does this happen to everyone?

[suzifrommd]

Estrogen has had the effect of making me notice kids more. Like you, I never cared much about them until HRT.

[Emily E]

I was never really into having kids it was something I sort of wanted when I got married but I wasn't into it to the point I had to have them right away but then I had my son and my view has changed significantly so I now kick myself for not trying to have children sooner.  Its funny how it happened all of the sudden one day after he was born it just clicked in me so it was probably a little like it was for you.  Don't worry about it and just enjoy and have fun with it.

[noleen111]

That is the Estrogen...  I understand what you mean.. I also get like that around kids.. never did before.

I would love to be pregnant.. and it does make me sad sometimes that I cant give my man a child.

[iKate]

It's not just E.

You never realize what a joy children are until you have your own (natural or adopted).

I love mine to pieces despite their hair raising antics.

[Kelly_1979]

Sorry to hijack your thread.

Now I'm almost 36, without gf and can't see how I can have any children considering my trans feelings (unless something really weird happens). This is doubly depressing since I'd like to have children and I'm an only child.

So time is passing fast and I'm not sure what to do. Currently I'm not really jealous of people who have kids. However every now and then when I see a young woman with her baby I get jealous.

[iKate]

Sorry to hijack your thread.

Now I'm almost 36, without gf and can't see how I can have any children considering my trans feelings (unless something really weird happens). This is doubly depressing since I'd like to have children and I'm an only child.

So time is passing fast and I'm not sure what to do. Currently I'm not really jealous of people who have kids. However every now and then when I see a young woman with her baby I get jealous.

If you haven't started HRT, bank your sperm to keep your options open. Otherwise, adoption is always an option. Lots of kids need good homes and they are very loving to their parents.

[marsh monster]

I couldn't have been a parent anyway due to sterility before hrt. But I can't really imagine myself raising a child and the way things are in the world, I'd likely be against it even if I had the ability. I love my nieces, but being around them has never made me want any of my own.

[iKate]

I couldn't have been a parent anyway due to sterility before hrt. But I can't really imagine myself raising a child and the way things are in the world, I'd likely be against it even if I had the ability. I love my nieces, but being around them has never made me want any of my own.

Hmm. I had lots of problems before HRT but we got help (multiple fertility docs, IVF, even acupuncture) and about $60k later we did manage to get 3 kids out of it.

These days they do some pretty amazing things.

[Jayne]

i'm also having to face this cluckiness, two of the women I work with closely are heavily pregnant & it's getting increasingly difficult for me to be around them due to the depression this causes.
Whilst giving a talk the other week at a womens hostel I gave them permission to ask any question they had about being trans, one of the questions that came up was about me having children, I told them that i've not had children due to genetic problems that have persisted through every generation of my family, I told them that i'd very much like to adopt should I ever find myself in a stable enough place to make this a reality. Throughout giving this answer I struggled to not break into tears & had to studiously avoid eye contact with the two pregnant women to maintain my emotional composure.
I frequently find myself daydreaming about having children running around my home making a mess & causing chaos