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Started by kayla 38, July 22, 2015, 01:44:00 AM

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kayla 38

Am I being paranoid or not? My fiancé and I have been living together for little over a year now. I have met and fell in love with his family and friends. His mother, I adore and we have lovely times together and not once have I ever been questioned about my past.
     My problem is, his father has been in failing health for the last six months and had passed away last week. Well before his passing either his ex who happened to find out by breaking into our home and ransacking my stuff to dig up dirt on me told his father or his brother did by hearing it from his ex. Well his father who ,happens to be very religious , was not very happy to hear this kind of news. I'm not sure how much of the family knows about me now, or how they feel about me now. I'm not sure how my fiancé is feeling about it now, we haven't talked since he has been gone for two weeks now. I knew something has been bothering my fiancé for the last few months but I figured it was his fathers health. My parents ,who happen to be very religious also but are trying to deal with having another daughter, also adore my fiancé and tell me to just give him time to deal with his fathers passing. Which I have been, but the non communication the last few weeks is killing me. On top of everything going on I stopped taking hormones an stopped smoking for my up coming srs in sept.
     I know he loves me and I love him, and I pray things will all work out. I think I'm more afraid of him joining me in Thailand for srs and having a bunch of stress while there, I don't need that. My mom and I talk a lot and when she seen me upset she gave me advise on don't worry about everything so much, men are men and no changing that.
Don't be a woman that needs a man, be a woman that a man needs.
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Jacqueline

Kayla,

Wow. I am so sorry. That is a lot to deal with. I wish I could snap my fingers and make it all go away.

I am so much earlier on my journey. I can't really give you any advice but to say that giving room and time to breathe is often helpful.

I also wish you strength, love and a smoother journey.

With warm thoughts,

Joanna
1st Therapy: February 2015
First Endo visit & HRT StartJanuary 29, 2016
Jacqueline from Joanna July 18, 2017
Full Time June 1, 2018





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kayla 38

OhThanks Joanna, that's pretty much what my mom told me to do. But this is the second time my fiance had to pause and think about us. It gets quite tiring and emotional waiting for him to get us straightened out in his head only to go thru it all over again a few months later. But I do love him even with all his faults as I am no angel myself.
Don't be a woman that needs a man, be a woman that a man needs.
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