Being Trans* without dysphoria

[teddybear_zach]

What I find absolutely amazing is that someone told me that I wasn't transgender because I haven't experienced dysphoria. Is there anyone else that doesnt have dysphoria when it comes to their transition journey?

[Devlyn]

They're wrong. It's an indicator, not a requirement. I think there may be an overlap of terms as well.  Dysphoria is common in transsexuals, not nearly as common among the greater transgender population.

Hugs, Devlyn

[teddybear_zach]

This teddy bear loves him some hugs....thanks 

[Marly]

I have very little dysphoria. it's part of what is holding me back. I have to do some deep thinking on the pros and cons.

So I don't think it's all that unusual. But I tell you...if there was button I could push that made everything good with the world..I wouldn't think twice about letting myself be "me"

[chloeD33]

When I has my adventure of exploring with the idea in 2007 I had no dysporia at all (well at times yes)... In fact I didn't have what one could say was (strong) dysporia until very end of 2013... In those 6 years I had neggy feelings I guess is a better word.

[BenKenobi]

I wouldn't call myself dysphoric. Sure there are a hell of a lot of things i hate about this body but rarely am i distressed (aside from that time of the month but does ANYONE enjoy that?). That's also what's holding me back but i think to myself "ten years down the line and you look in the mirror and see a man staring back, what would you do?" and then i answer that i would smile and go about my business. In short I'd be happy.

[sam1234]

Dysphoric is a general term, and means different things to different people. Sometimes its the secondary problems that arise from being in the wrong body that cause the most problems. I didn't realize there were such a thing as transgenders when i was going through middle school and high school, but the isolation, jokes and mockery that came as a result had me depressed enough to attempt suicide. Since i didn't know, I couldn't say I was gender dysphoric.

Depending on a person's temperment, they may be patient enough to know that they will have to wait to do something without it causing a big problem. Some people just do their own thing and really don't seem to care what others think.

In other cases, the knowledge that they are not the gender their body tells them they are causes such confusion and depression does cause serious dysphoria.

Just because you are not dysphoric does not mean that you are not a transgender. For all the information in the medic, which admittedly is not that much and somewhat misinterpreted, most people don't know that much about transgenders. They may parrot what they read or hear, but have very little knowledge of what being a transgender truly means. I wouldn't let it get to you.

sam1234

[katrinaw]

No way, I am not overly Dysphoric, frustrated maybe!

But when I was a kid and realised after sharing a bath with my girl cousin (the only girl in the family) somewhere about 4 or 5 I did get very Dysphoric (term not even thought of then  ) I took scissors to bed with me every night and every night I was to scared, over  time it waned... Today, I still hate my incorrect organs, but I am certainly going to fully transition!

L Katy 

[Julia-Madrid]

Hi

It's probably less of a commonly reported situation on this forum to not be dysphoric, but I think the term is extremely broad and hence is open to a large amount of interpretation. 

I've seen here that we range from having an incapacitating sense of wrongness down to something much less debilitating, often quite livable.  That doesn't stop us from knowing that there's something wrong, that we are being pulled in other directions by our own internal forces.

Regards
Julia

[Anna R]

What I find absolutely amazing is that someone told me that I wasn't transgender because I haven't experienced dysphoria. Is there anyone else that doesnt have dysphoria when it comes to their transition journey?

No, not really.
Am having hormones but not going for SRS, my pet dislike is really only body hair, UGH !

[suzifrommd]

That's what I don't like about the DSM designation of "gender dysphoria". I didn't really have dysphoria to speak of, but I needed to transition to be myself.

[GingerMaxim]

I personally have very little gender dysphoria myself.
I have no plans to transition either.

I have and I am sure most transgender feel the odd dysphoria, but in my case the only real thing
that I would like is to have an Orchiectomy.

But since I have been on my HRT, my body is changing very slowly but changing none the less.
At 49 things don't change as much or as fast I presume.
I just did my measurements for my breasts and I depending on which bra calculator you use.
Am a 36D or 42C, thick chested...

But each and every week, I love my body more and more.

NOTE: I was playing DnD with my guy friends last week, (don't forget I am NOT in transition) and someone out of the blue brought up Caitlyn Jenner in a negative way. Every one but 1 person was disgusted about her and it only proved my feelings about my friends are 100% Transgender/homophobic. Because I can safely bet not one of them even know what transgender is.
ANOTHER REASON why I will never come out as long as I am friends with them and live in this city.

Ginger

[Alice Love]

NOTE: I was playing DnD with my guy friends last week, (don't forget I am NOT in transition) and someone out of the blue brought up Caitlyn Jenner in a negative way. Every one but 1 person was disgusted about her and it only proved my feelings about my friends are 100% Transgender/homophobic. Because I can safely bet not one of them even know what transgender is.
ANOTHER REASON why I will never come out as long as I am friends with them and live in this city.

Ginger

That's scary. One of my friends made a few negative comments about Bruce Jenner. However, since I've told him vaguely that's what I'm struggling with, he has never brought her up in a negative manner again and supports me fully now. Something to consider, we can influence others if they care.

[leacobb]

i was strongly dysphoic when i was younger i didnt feel right when i hit pubity, the way my bady was developing wasnt me and that pushed me to have depression as a teenager and the more i tried to hold back them feeling, the more depressed i got. Then in my early adulthood i just couldnt cope.. then i seeked help and im so much happier now that i am living the life that i am now (a happy woman) when i was younger i thought it would never happen..
But that was me, that is my story and everyone is different, because of there own experiances.. so can you be transgendered and not be dysphoric. Yes because everyone is different

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[Swayallday]

For the longest of times I was a drug addict.

After accepting that perhaps transgender isn't so far off I haven't touched much drugs anymore.

And I had a thought once which basically accounted for:
what if you assume that you operate the same way as others? Then you blockade yourself with all its consequences: disease, psychosomatic symptoms, psychological problems, professional problems, conflicts in communication, relationship problems, addictions, a hole / one void  in yourself. Because that what isn't seen nor heard, what is not allowed to come to life, expresses(manifests?) itself in an unhealthy manner !

Perhaps you don't call it dysphoria, per se but i've had a few issues being resolved after self-realization.
the combination of intensity and emotions. Until someone explains you that a person whom can't furfill their unique desires can end in loss of all desire to do anything at all ...