Quote from: Jake25 on June 21, 2015, 11:57:49 AM
I'm talking about the way a stranger may treat you, not really your close loved ones. I agree with you on feeling comfortable in your own skin would give you more confident therefore you would be perceived as more confident and people may treat you better.
I getcha Jake and I tried to make some kind of
sense.lol I was trying to get at the point that irregardless of your physical-ness...whether you're a perfect 10 or a 2, it's about how you feel inside and how you project that outwardly. The less outgoing you are or if you seem timid or 'victimizable', people will pick up on that and regardless of whether they want to rob you or clock you, you'll be on the receiving end of some badness. Confidence or being self-assured or whatever--it's good in general because people, like say muggers, will look for an easier 'victim'...and the same with people who clock/out/mock others...when you hold yourself up high and proud and self-assured, they tend to say nothing even if they do clock you.
I've been clocked before at various times. When I was early after SRS, I'd cry and it would destroy my day--even if the person just kinda looked at me in that 'knowing way' but didn't say anything. Over time, as I developed my sense of self, it stopped mattering because in my mind I firmly believe wholeheartedly that they're 1)wrong...no matter what they *think* I am, I'm not--I'm much much more complex than to be someone's labeled box and 2)the problem lies entirely with some kind of damage in the person doing the clocking...I mean, they're very likely saying unkind things about women who aren't model-perfect in every way, and people who's body type isn't in the perfect height/weight ratio...basically they're just ->-bleeped-<-s and are going to find some kind of fault in everyone they meet...but it's not my prob, it's theirs. I keep on being the best me that I can be--mentally and spiritually--and they can wallow in the land of low vibes and negative energies.
The one downside to this whole thing, and I find it consistent across all cultures I encounter, is that the more positive I am the more people are drawn to that--but they also want to drain it. Everyone likes positivity and people who are uplifting, but trying to keep others negative energy out of my field is a hard job...It's hard to be open and light with people without also shielding myself from their lower energy frequencies. Sorry to go all Wicca wonder here but I really believe that overall, people are more attracted to positivity and treat you better because you give off that vibe.
