I've only read your post so far, so if someone suggested this, then I guess I'm simply reiterating the point.
It IS possible to be friends with only one half of a couple. Sounds like you're more friends with the husband than the wife anyway. I'd talk to him about your problem with her, ask if its cool if just you and he remain friends, and then block his wife. Its obvious that she cares nothing about you and your feelings, so why remain friends with her, especially if she's so cruel and self-centered in regards to your privacy and feelings?
I'll read the rest of the posted answers later, when its not 5am. Lol
Ryuichi
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