At what point could you say unquestionably to yourself I am a woman

[StartingOver]

Yeah, for me it is mostly to do with the fact that I have embraced being trans.

To say 'I am a woman' feels like I am lying to myself, and everyone else. It caused me a lot of internal conflict.

So, I won't do that :~o

SarahBoo, I'm with you on this.  As soon as I dropped the idea that I had to become a woman and became comfortable with the idea that it's okay to transition into being a transwoman, the whole process became so much less stressful!  And that's not to say that being a transwoman is a lesser form of woman; it's merely who I am.  I still look female, I still pass as female, but I don't have to deal with the whole idea that I wasn't born with the correct bits and pieces.

No shame in who I am.  And that alone has undoubtedly saved me a lifetime of therapy and dying an early death from drink/drugs/stress.

Nor have I found that I lose any respect from people who know me.  If anything, they respect me more for being proud of who I am, rather than whispering and giggling behind my back about how I'm trying to be something that I'm not.

[Jenna Marie]

Honestly, it was saying this to myself that triggered the realization that I had to transition, so I guess for me it was sort of step 0 on the path.

[Mariah]

I'm with Jenna on this. It was from when I knew something was wrong with my gender in the first place. I never did feel like a guy.
Mariah

[Zoetrope]

SarahBoo, I'm with you on this.  As soon as I dropped the idea that I had to become a woman and became comfortable with the idea that it's okay to transition into being a transwoman, the whole process became so much less stressful!  And that's not to say that being a transwoman is a lesser form of woman; it's merely who I am.  I still look female, I still pass as female, but I don't have to deal with the whole idea that I wasn't born with the correct bits and pieces.

Are we twins? This would be my second metaversal event in one night!

[angiegurl]

I have a lot of work to do before I am "complete" but I will never be a "complete women" as I can not or will not ever be able to bear children. The closest I will come to that is with SRS to be able to have sex as a women or as close to it as I can cum  in this life. Perhaps in my next life I will be 100% women in all the splendor and glory - one can only hope.

[kelly_aus]

I have a lot of work to do before I am "complete" but I will never be a "complete women" as I can not or will not ever be able to bear children. The closest I will come to that is with SRS to be able to have sex as a women or as close to it as I can cum  in this life. Perhaps in my next life I will be 100% women in all the splendor and glory - one can only hope.

There are cis women who are unable to conceive, by your comments here you seem to be suggesting that they are somehow not 'complete women'.. I'm sure they'd argue that idea.

[Shawn Sunshine]

Yes plenty of cisgender women who for some developmental
Issues can't have children or don't have a womb or ovaries. They are still women. Even the Ones with CAIS and have xy chromosomes are women.