Took first major step

[Becca131306]

Hi yall. I took a major step a couple days ago and finally came out to my wife. Naturally she was hurt and it killed me to see her in pain I had caused. We have been doing a lot of soul searching and talking the last couple days. We have agreed that I will take time and figure out exactly what I want and then once I make my decision we will go from there. She has said that though she is bi, she isn't interested in being in a committed relationship with a woman. So unless something changes, if I go foward with transition, our marriage but not our friendship and parenthood, will be over.

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[Ms Grace]

All the best Becca.

[JoanneB]

Congrats. It sounds like you two have a workable, for today, plan. My wife and I have been on this roller coaster ride together for about 6 years. Also with her not able to make any promises about a possible future with me fully transitioning.

For now it is one day at a time. Taking things slowly as my GD is not overwhelming. Plus healthy doses of honest and open discussions to keep imaginations and fears under control

[Mariah]

Becca, I'm glad you were able to finally come out to her. I'm glad you have started to make a plan for what comes next at least. Hugs
Mariah

[Jacqueline]

Becca,

Congratulations on talking with your spouse. That really stirs up all the emotions and worries and anxieties, doesn't it? I did this almost 2 months ago. I was a wreck beforehand.

I think depending on how far I go, my situation may be the same as what you have described. We and I are taking it slow for now.

It has taken a huge amount of anxiety out of my life but added some back into it.

I wish you much luck. I hope your path is smooth. Let us know if you have questions, need to vent or just need a sympathetic  shoulder.

With warm thoughts,

Joanna