Mum to a FtoM 11 year old seeking advice

[maxman]

Where are you located? I know many surgeons will do surgery at 16 or even younger with parental permission.

Also, sometimes, as mentioned above, binding can be comforting for those with autism spectrum disorder, as the compression is soothing. Some children with ASD actually wear compression vests for comfort! But I understand for others it is quite the opposite.

I am so sorry your son went through puberty so early, that's really unfortunate. While blockers and T won't remove the breast tissue he has already developed, they will prevent more from growing.

Have you discussed his situation with the school he will be going to? Maybe that would help ease his transition into high school.

It sounds like (from his lack of interest in support groups) that he doesn't want to be reminded of or deal with the fact that he is trans, and just wants to be a regular kid. Maybe playing boys sports or hanging out with cis gender boys may help him feel more at home than associating with other trans kids?

While we, as adults can see benefit in him meeting others like him, he may not be ready and may just wish to ignore his trans status for now. Not sure, everyone copes differently.

Best of luck, your son is lucky to have such a supportive and active mother.

[RaptorChops]

It's really wonderful to see someone here in support of their child. You're an amazing mother and you are doing the right thing by supporting him and trying to learn everything you can about this.

Transwear sells packers (fake penises) and stand to pee devices (basically a device that allows your child the freedom to pee like a cis-male) for younger FTMs, so if he is having issues with down there maybe grab him one. I also recommend the GCB2 binders because they are a pretty good price and they do pretty well with the compression. They are also very comfortable and don't feel super restricting like a normal binder. I also believe there may be surgeons that will do the chest surgery at 16 years old with consent obviously from the parents and recommendation from a doctor (he may need recommendation from 2 doctors).

Best of luck!

[synesthetic]

As others have said, I think trying a GC2B binder and seeing if it works for him would be a good idea. Blockers would also be great - they would stop further breast growth - and hopefully could ease his dysphoria a bit.

If he's comfortable with it of course, he's always welcome on here if he needs to talk with other trans guys. Or as Gothic suggested, Youtube videos from other trans people can be helpful during transition as well.

Best of luck and all the love to you and Jason!

[phoenix633]

In addition to a binder I have found that black t shirts and button down collared shirts with a binder will pretty much totally camouflage my chest and I am about the same size as your son. This may make him feel more confident when going out and socializing. I'd say if he isn't into talking to trans people yet, just take the lead from him. Give him time and maybe in a few years he will want to. Finding some cis gendered boys his age he can be friends with may make him feel better. Also, I have heard of this summer camp for trans and gender variant youth. It says that they don't ever talk about gender, just let the kids do normal camp things. Maybe he would be interested in something like that? It is called camp aranu'tiq but it is in the US so I'm not sure if that is where you are. You sound like an amazing mother to support your son like this. I hope we have been able to help you in some way. And as someone else had said, I have seen some people on youtube get chest surgery at 16. Maybe if you found someone who is willing to do that, it would help your son to know it could be sooner than 18.