Finding it hard to move forward

[Ixera]

or even to begin.

My life situation is preventing me from moving forward in my transition. I live in an apartment on my parent's ranch, I'm semi-independent but I'm kind of 'locked in' with them because I take a medication that disables me from driving.

The short version is: I cant start transitioning without coming out to my mom.

And no I'm not moving somewhere else, I love my parents and they love me, I love it here with them; I just don't know how they will react.

I know they would accept me if I gave them the right facts. They would accept me no matter who I was or what I do.

I've tried to come out to my mom before when I was 18 and I was too shy or uninformed about transgender issues to explain adequately about what I was dealing with to her where she believed I was valid in my feelings but to fully transition was not the right answer. 

I'm afraid that even if I came out to them they would not be against what I feel and why I feel that way but because of their values and beliefs to not want me to transition. I.e prevent me from transitioning.

I'm finding it hard to not only explain what I feel and why I feel it to myself but to explain to my parents that "that is what I need to be happy" in a way that they will help me (in their limited capacity) transition or at the very least not be a giant road block in my way.

Long story short: for me there is no way around this: I need at least my mom's support (if even in a limited capacity) to start any form of transitioning

But I have no idea of how to come out to her

[suzifrommd]

"Mom, I'm having a hard time telling you this, but it's something that has to be said. You might have heard of transgender people. They're people who are born with a need to be a different gender than their body sex.

Well I need to tell you that I'm transgender, and I won't ever be happy unless I can live as the woman I am.

There are several things I really want you to understand:
1. This isn't something I chose or that I can help. I was born transgender, and there's no way to change that.
2. Transgender people who can't transition experience gender dysphoria, which is intense unhappiness about their gender. It can cause anxiety and depression, and it's often impossible to be happy. You don't want that for me, do you?
3. Transgender people who do transition to live as their true gender have a very high rate of success.

I hope you'll understand that this is something I have to do. I know you love me and would not like to see me live a difficult or unhappy life, so I hope I can count on your support.

Thank you for listening."

Do you think something like that would work?

[maralehava]

I had similar issues with my dad. So what i did in the end is wrote everything down in an email and sent him that. It was long and detailed everything, including the fact that i have tried to live as a woman and i can not be content this way. That i need to transition to be settled. I told him how long i had known for, and how much i loved  him, but that i need this.

Maybe writing down how you feel may help put your thoughts in order and help with the conversation?

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